I am a very outgoing person and i love to meet new people, but i get really intimidated in social bar/club situations. i always feel like people are judging me, even though they probably aren't. i want to go out and have fun and maybe even meet some interesting people, but i am too scared to talk to anyone. anyone have any suggestions as to what i should do?
2006-08-30 04:30:39 · 15 answers · asked by heavnlysinger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are a normally outgoing person you may have a problem with larger group settings. Surround yourself with good friends and don't let all those other people. If you are worried about what they think about you, just remember that they are probably worried about what YOU are thinking about THEM.
Keep your chin up (not your nose! LOL), smile and be confident - people will flock to your side as it is human nature to want to be around someone who is confident, smiling and just all around friendly. Good luck!
2006-08-30 04:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All things come with practise so practise even if you are standing by the bar when out and someone comes over just smile and maybe even start a conversation even if it lasts for all of 5 seconds...
For me it is hard i know because i get shy when around someone i find attractive but get some alcohol (provided you are legal to drink) and everything becomes so easy...
2006-08-30 11:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be the shy one in high school, i just grew out of it. i go to bars all the time and have a ball meeting new people. you just have to make the first step to approach someone new with conversation and take it from there. the more you do that the more friends you make and the more you go back to your favorite bar all that is there is your friends and you'll feel like the most popular person there. :)
2006-08-30 11:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by crazydiamondbc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you join a user group where you can come out of your shell gently and safely. Then, meet up with this new group of friends at a public bar. Then you can have fun with them and have the confidence to meet others.
This site is a great way to meet people (mostly 20 and 30 somethin's):
www.yelp.com
2006-08-30 11:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to be more confident. People really do have better things to do then sit around judging you. If you actually just go out and have fun, smile alot and be friendly, no one will be able to negatively judge you. Then just start talking to people. You really are making to much out of it!
2006-08-30 11:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a great idea to build you confidence its a game that you can do with your girls first you get loose and tipsy not drunk but having no inhibitions that you go out to the club looking real sexy then you bet each other to see how many guys you can dance with that night once you get your confidence up you can try talking next time.
2006-08-30 11:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by bigmj75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chat with people on internet to get the hang of it, then when u go out to the bar, have 1 drink. It will give u guts. and loosen your scaredness.
2006-08-30 11:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Bandice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a group active like a cook class or art class to take. From there meet new people and see where they go and what kind of people they see .. i hope this help ..
2006-08-30 11:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u prob have social anxiety, next time just look back at all the people that intimidate you and say this in ur mind "so what b, who are you
2006-08-30 11:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out in something your comfy wearing with friends you trust. Be confident love who you are.
2006-08-30 11:35:43 · answer #10 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋