seven years ago i met this guy whom i fell inlove with and then i went 2 university 5 years ago and met yet another guy and cheated with him. one thing led 2 another and we fell deeply in love. i have secrecly managed 2 be with both of them, the problem is that they both want to commitment and im now working and made arangements 2 stay with the one i met at varsity. i cant live like this 4 ever and i luv them both. what do i do
2006-08-30 04:27:29 · 10 answers · asked by ntu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell them both the truth and stop worrying about yourself.... you shouldnt be so quick to throw the LOVE word around.... take 5 minutes to think ( if you loved either of them, truely loved them, would you be hurting them by putting them in this situation?
2006-08-30 04:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...visit a lonely place the place there at the instant are no distractions. Then i pick u to close your eyes..think of your self to be able the place u like being maximum..for eg: on the sea coast, or having a romantic dinner. you may get flashes of the two adult adult males entering your recommendations, however the only that lingers the longest on your recommendations, is the only you will possibly desire to pick. because of the fact he's the only which you will particularly spend time with. yet another determination: ask your self what are the priorities on your existence and which guy may well be ideal to fulfill your priorities? it truly is totally wide-spread to love 2 adult adult males, yet while it includes commitments, there is have been given to be some compromises in existence. So the guy who's prepared to make compromises with you and calm down is the splendid one for you ^_^ solid good fortune!
2016-11-06 01:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by sokin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you outgrew the first guy ages ago but didnt have the balls to end it. Find those balls now and do the decent thing. You dont love them both...or you wouldnt have cheated in the first place.
Caring and not wanting to hurt is one thing...real love is something else. Maybe after the first guy is out of the picture you can allow yourself to feel real love.
Personally.....I'd go with the one ones sexes you up best...because you will always compare and find the other lacking.
2006-08-30 04:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are thinking only from your point of view. just think from their angle also. even if you love both of them, i think, you are now more inclined towards the latest guy in your life. so the time has come to stop this cat and mouse game, once for all. so decide, who will remain only your good friend, and the other, lifelong partner. have a talk with both separately, confess, and come to terms. it will be embarrassing for you, if caught. so settle now, who can forgive you, and accept. a burden will be taken away from your chest. don't you agree, it's not fair on your part to play with their lives ?
2006-08-30 04:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by palador 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you lived 5 years in a lie? Why would you choose? Let them both know what you've been doing and leave the choice in their hands! Most probably none of them would want to be with you anymore!!
2006-08-30 04:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u got your self in a pickle you play with fire u are going to get burnt. u need to choose u cnat have to guys thats just not the way it goes. what u are doing to the both of them is heart less i dont think u no what love is. u better think about what u are doing i think there both to good for u
2006-08-30 04:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does either of them know about the other? If so, they are the stupid ones for letting you make the decision for them. Sounds to me like they BOTH deserve better!
2006-08-30 04:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by jessica i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your heart and seriously think about it-but you may end up with neither since you did them dirty for so long they both deserve better but just be real and honost with it if you cheated on guy number one obviously you werent that 'in love' with him so go for mr university
2006-08-30 04:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by desireddisease15 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIVE me your recipe for having two! I cant handle to have no even one. Is that the brand of perfum that you use???
2006-08-30 04:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this seems a little tormenting... Which one do you think is more compatable , more all rounded and sutable for u?
2006-08-30 04:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋