Ok.. My ex and I were together for over 3 yrs and then she started hanging out with one of her guy friends alot, then i find out they fooled around a bit. Then she decides to end it with me basically to be with him. About 2 months have passed and now she is saying that she wants me back. It seems like she is just doing this because it didnt work with this other guy and because she recently found out i was seeing some other girl. She is saying she knows she wants to marry me and all that stuff now, but i just feel it is a desperate attempt to get me back. Its almost like I am the Plan B guy. What should I do?
2006-08-30 04:26:32 · 35 answers · asked by JEREMY D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you don'y say if you still love her,maybe you are confused. i would say keep her at bay until you know for sure, and don't feel bad to get rid of her if needs be.
2006-09-03 02:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-30 04:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,I think U answered your self there.If u feel like plan b guy then there ya go.Don't go back to that if u have someone new and are happy then u need to continue on with that and be happy.If she was willing to through away a 3 year relationship to be with someone else then she is not the one for u.She maybe serious about what she feels but she also maybe not wanting to be alone or a classic case of she really don't want u but doesn't want anyone else to have u either.If U are happy the stay where u are and move forward not back. Good luck
2006-08-30 04:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one....
ever heard of the saying; '' never leave the one you Love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love''
she could generally have realised that she actually loves you and made a really big mistake getting with this other guy that she only liked.
Be careful though you don't want her to walk all over you. If you still love her and you think that maybe she does generally love you, just take it slow and see how it goes.
You wont lose anything by just seeing how it goes. If you decided not to you may regret not tying though. Just remember to follow your heart.
2006-08-30 04:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by star_kelly_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but yes you are plan B. If you take her back you're basically saying you'll let her get away with that kind of thing and she WILL eventually do it again. She will only stay faithful to a guy she knows won't accept that kind of behaviour, but she's already done it to you so you either have to be the one to teach her that lesson or be walked on, your choice. It's a catch 22 I know, but thems the breaks
2006-08-30 04:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get along with the girl you are seeing now I'd stay with her unless you feel lost without the ex.It seems she may not be worth the time and effort,after all she stepped out of the relationship.She just wants you back because the other thing didn't work out.Use your time and life wisely it won't last forever nothing does.
2006-08-30 05:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by coolkid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you need some time and see what happens. if she wants you she will stay around and wait but... you have to make sure that you make it perfectly clear to her in this case that you are not saying no. If she thinks you won't want to have anything to do with her while she really wants you and not just as a some kind nonsense on her behalf and believes that you are just mucking her about she can technically do all sorts of odd things that she wouldn't have done otherwise.
2006-08-30 07:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats exactally what you are to her.
It sounds like she just dosent want to be alone.
She cant have real feeling for either of you if she can go back and forth so easily.
Dont let her back into your life. Move on with this new girl, and tell the ex to get a life and leave you alone.
2006-08-30 04:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go back.....she only wants you coz uve got someone else. All it takes is for some other guy to come along and she'll be off leaving you on your own again. Dont bother! Stay with the girl you're with.
2006-08-30 04:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by red hot42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance and I mean only one chance but don't set it up to fail. Then you will know if you are plan B or not and not to mention whether or not she really does want to be with you. However, I myself have been there and well I can say if she did it once she will likely do it again so I personally would say **** HER!!!!!
2006-08-30 04:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be Plan B guy if not then just forget her and move on cos she is just going to use you until someone else comes along then it will happen all over again
2006-08-30 04:29:48 · answer #11 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋