Approx 4 wks ago I had a miscarriage. I had a rough time of it and know that I can try again in a couple of weeks. However for the last week I have been crying all the time, mostly b/c I still cant fit into my clothes b/c I am so bloated. My husband and I wanted this baby so badly but knowing that I hate the way I look and that we may have issues at a later date has me so upset. Has anyone else gone through this?
2006-08-30 04:13:23 · 10 answers · asked by Mandy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think you are still grieving. Just stay calm about the bloating it's not as bad as you feel it is. Just tell yourself that something was wrong with that pregnancy and you can try again. Good luck and please try to relax.
2006-08-30 04:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to step back, take a deep breath, and realize that you are going through a very difficult time. I, personally, think you should give your body a few months before really trying for another baby. It takes your body and soul time to heal from the loss. You're going through hormonal changes because you were flooded with pregnancy hormones, now you're not, you're suffering the loss of a baby, you're just in a bad state of mind right now. Unless you give yourself time to heal, you're running the risk of another miscarriage.
I've had two, albeit at the time of them I had no idea I was pregnant until I went to the doctor because of horrible cramping and clotting. I have no children. My miscarriages were very early into the pregnancy, I hadn't even noticed a missed period yet. But it was still very difficult, it's still a loss. Take it one day at a time, let yourself recover. Don't push yourself or force yourself.
Miscarriages can happen to any woman, for any reason. Most happen for no known reason at all. Over half of all first pregnancies end in miscarriage. You're NOT a bad person, you're not a dirty person, there's nothing wrong with you as a person that made this happen. Bad things happen to the best of people.
2006-08-30 14:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you and I understand you. I have lost 4 babies and I lost the last one at 20 weeks. I never made it back into my regular close before I was pregnant again. I am now 11 weeks and all is well for me. I know you hurt, and the pain will never fully go away. Even having another baby will not put the feelings to rest but it will help filling the void of wanting a child. Just work on your mental state and you may have post partum depression. Keep your spirits up and you'll be yourself before long. If you wanna talk just click my yahoo contact me and I'll give you my email address. I know what you are going Thru
2006-08-30 12:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by momie_2bee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage last april. I was suposed to be 12weeks but the babys heartbeat stopped at 9 so for 3 weeks i carried around a dead baby thinking i was still pregnant. For weeks after i felt like it was all my fault and i was disgusting. When i went for my check up after my d and c my doctor told me i could start trying again in a couple of months, but i didnt because i didnt think i could handle another miscarage. It is now 4 months later and me and my husband are trying again. It takes time. believe me everything will work out.
2006-08-30 13:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by JustMarried 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage at about 8 weeks, and it took me several months before I started feeling like myself again. I cried alot! Remember that it takes awhile for the pregnancy hormones to be eliminated from your system. Of course you're emotional. Try not to say or do anything that you will regret six months from now, but be patient with yourself and your husband. Be grateful you have each other. Try to do one nice thing for each other every day without the other having to ask or even expecting it. You'll rediscover the love and intimacy you'll need to make it through this.
2006-08-30 11:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although i have never been through a miscarriage i understand what you are going through....my husband and I are trying to get pregnant and everytime i see a pregnant women on tv or at the store i begin to tear up and i get very depressed because of it..If you ever need to talk about anything just message me...i'll be there for you
2006-08-30 11:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally know what you are going through. I too went through a similar experience. I had a still born son 3 months ago. He was born at 21 weeks. I misscarried him, because my water broke.
Even though 3 months have passed, i still cry for him and am depress.
Not only that, because i miscarried him in my second trimester, i have to wait even longer than u to try again. My time is coming around too to try again, but i'm getting more and mosre depressed as his due date is getting closer.
the reason i misscaried was because i had an maniocentesis.
please, feel free to emails me any questions u may have, as i am going through the same thing.
landaverde04@sbcglobal.net
2006-08-30 11:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by chapped lips 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It completely normal! I suffered 2 miscarriages at 12 weeks each and it took me up to a year to recuperate emotionally
2006-08-30 13:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't gone thru a miscarriage..but it sounds like you are very depressed and I would wait to try again at least until you can get past this depression which is only normal........
2006-08-30 11:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its a normal feeling.Just be glad that your husband was supportive.Mine was not.The marriage ended not because directly of the miscarriage but it was a factor.Love each and support each other.
2006-08-30 11:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋