What is the best and fastest way to get over a boyfriend when you suffer very much and can't seem to forget?

Question

I loved him, but he wanted me to be very calm and to control myself all the time no matter what he was doing. I couldn't stay calm when he was seeing other girls. He was trying to keep me away, even though it was a long relationship. He is 43 years old.
He blames me for everything and doesn't admit his faults. I am sometimes desperate even though we are apart for months now. We still see each other from time to time. He says he loves me and he will never forget me, but I am not calm enough for him. He did't have a girlfriend since we broke up.

Answer 1

Get a hobby.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

When it's over, it's over! This man doesn't want to continue to have a relationship with you. If you pursue this you will get hurt even more then you are now.
He is looking for a particular type of woman and he is not satisfied with you as you are. Move on and find someone who will appreciate you as you are. They are out there!

I have been where you are now and I know that it is hard to get over the emotional part of the relationship. But you have to, and you will! It just takes time

Find something to do that will occupy your mind other than what you are thinking of right now which is the relationship being over. This will help you to get over it better.

There are new and exciting adventures awaiting you in the future. You will see soon enough and you will look back on this episode as a stepping stone to a brighter future, a learning process that you had to go through so you could eventually find that special someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated.

Answer 4

My first question is how old are you? Because if he is 43 and is still dating casually that's your first problem. You have already pointed out his faults therefore if you can't accept them, let him go and you move. The biggest mistake that women make is thinking they can change a man. Men don't ever need to change, they just need to mature. If this never happens and you don't cut him loose, you will be swimming up stream for a long time. It will be difficult but if you occupy your time with people who enjoy being around you and things that you find interesting every day will get easier.

Answer 5

You need to keep yourself occupied as much as possible. Whether it be sitting at home with some friends or going out to the bar to meet a new guy. Down time is the worst because it gives you time to think about stuff and thats when it goes downhill. Just stay busy and keep your channel of love so that when the new guy comes into the picture your not still salking over the "old and not ready to commit." Good luck!

Answer 6

You are a security blanket. Find a hobby, go out with the girls, find another date. If you are having fun it's a whole lot easier to move on.

Answer 7

the best way to get over someone is to have a back up. Do u have any male friends who you like to just chill out with? When talking to other guys, especially if they want to take you out, they will get your mind off of that person.

Answer 8

Its seems he simply doesnt want a relationship with you any longer so you need to move on.
As hard as it may be, go out. Sitting at home pondering your pain will get you nowhere.

Answer 9

it sounds like it's too painful for you to even see him from time to time - i would cut that out - also buy and read the book 'He's Just Not That Into You' By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo - it's very helpful.

Answer 10

well he cheated on you and he blames you for everything. that to me dont sound like that he loves you. go out with some friends of yours for a girls night out and find someone who would treat you better.