Marry Him?

Question

I'm holidaying in London at the moment with a female friend of mine and she and i met this guy and his mate.
They are both wonderful guys...and my friend and i have been spending some time with them...and one of them just asked me to marry him. This came as a shock to me. I knew he liked me...and i might consider seeing where things are headed...but i cant help but feel he's only asking cos i'll be going back to the States in a few days. And i feel like he's giving me an ultimatum.

But guys...i havent even known this guy for up to a month. Please let me know ur opinions as to what to do and how best not to upset this guy. He really is wonderful.
Thanx.

Answer 1

I'm very sure this guy is probably a wonderful guy like you say he is, but don't get yourself caught up in the wrong situation. Don't marry him. The reason I say this is because if you didn't feel like this was a problem you wouldn't be asking for our opinions on this. Listen to your heart and follow it. It would be downright crazy for you to marry a guy you hardly know anything about. A good relationship is built upon friendship first. Even best friends have to go through a trial period together before they can call themselves best friends. If this guy really wants you he will wait and try to build a friendship with you first. I'm sure he doesn't want you to leave and that's why he's asking you, but that's not a good way to keep this going. He's only acting out of desperation. If you two are meant to be then things will work out for you regardless of where you are. Who knows you might find yourself living there or he might want to come here. If this is really serious and you like this guy and there is something different and special then don't give up on him. Stay in touch with each other and see where it leads the both of you. Always remember that if things are meant to be they have a way of working themseves out for your best interests no matter which way they go. Take care!!!

Answer 2

If you really feel for this guy, you should continue the relationship by e-mail, Messenger, phone etc. If he's not up to carrying on in this way then he obviously didn't want to marry you in the first place, but if he's OK with it AND he makes the effort to fly over to spend time with you occasionally, then he's obviously interested and you should do your best to make it work.

Marriage isn't to be taken lightly - well, not inside a month anyway! - so if all goes well, then you could both think about it again in 6 months or a year's time.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Tell him you think he is wonderful, and you would like to continue this relationship when you get back home. Tell him that if the relationship continues and things feel "right" then he can come over here and visit. But you would like to take things a little slower and make sure every thing is going to work out. Remember if it is really true love it will last and it will wait, because true love lasts forever.

This way you are not dumping him, it will give you time away from him so that you can think things out.
Good luck.

Answer 4

No way! You are in London, not Vegas and marriage is a permanent sacred commitment. If you are asking the good people at Yahoo if this is a yes, then you already know it is a NO. If he is so wonderful and is meant to be "the one" then it will happen over time. He will understand and instead of pressuring you he will get to know you.

Answer 5

To marry someone is to love him first and study him at close quarters before getting attached to him for life. One month is not enough to understand him fully, besides there are other commitments to consider like where would you live, job, family and other matters. If he is really keen then keep in touch and meet him at Christmas time to finalize things over if you get to an agrement. Good Luck to you both.

Answer 6

Love is crazy i know people that knew each other for that short period of time, got married and have been married for years. the best advice i can give you is follow your heart. See if he can come back to the states with you so you can get to know him better. no matter what you decide, it is your decsion and life good luck

Answer 7

You just met the guy and he is asking you to marry him??? Something is up! You definitely need to take caution. Maybe he wants to go back with you and just get his green card. You'll come back home, get married, he'll get his green card, and then BAM he's off. Be careful. Maybe you should be penpals for awhile. Get to know him a little more.

Answer 8

if you have only know him for a month then i would say - dont marry him- at least not right now... neither of you really know each other... of course right now everything is wonderful and great but is that the real side of him? take it slow... in today society that is normally best- you dont really know him yet and his bad habits or anything... as far as you know he could be a con-artist... if its too good to be true- it probably is... just becareful and take your time... if its truely ment to be then it will be...

Answer 9

There's no way you can possibly have the slightest clue what kind of guy this is deep down. Don't be a child or let wishful thinking cloud your judgement

Answer 10

Please tell him you think it's a little too soon and you'd like to continue getting to know him. If it's meant to be, it will, if not then at least you waited until you were in love to make such a big life change as marriage. Good luck.

I hope you'll stay friends. He sounds nice, like a romantic.