I did a terrible mistake.
After 2 months of dating, we started a relationship last weekend. On the last day, I was too scared of having too much sex, that I pulled my self away from him. I gave him tons of space, and he thought...maybe, that I'm not interested in him any more.
We weren't talking at all, he gave me a peck on the cheek when we left. That made me so sad...
So I had a talk with him, he thought he enjoyed being with me, but I was pulling away.
Than for no reason, I said "I am actually falling in love with you" because I did care for him...but in my second thought, I actually don't have that storn feelings yet!
I just wanted to know that I liked him so much. He sounded surprised and said that was very sweet, but I was so embarrased what slipped out from my mouth, that I said "ok, well bye!" so fast.
I can't say that I want to take that back!
He said he's giving me a phone call today...but I don't know how to aproach! Can I say "I didn't mean that"? That would hurt?
2006-08-30 03:52:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be straight - tell him what you were trying to say was you felt very strongly for him and confused the emotion for love. Tell him you hope you didnt scare him off - that way it will kinda lighten the whole conversation, and dont be afraid to tell him that whilst its not love just yet - youd certainly like to see if ye can make it to that stage over time. I dont think it would hurt him if you explain it like this as whilst youre taking back whay you said - youre not ruling it out in time
2006-08-30 03:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone mispeaks (look at our public figures). The nice thing about being a "plain old person" is that the entire world doesn't ridicule you when you misspeak.
If I had a buck for everytime, I told someone I loved them and didn't really mean it... I'd be a member of the Bush family!
So tell the guy how you feel and let him know that you feel it was a premature statement. If he doesn't understand, it will be his loss.
2006-08-30 10:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What made you say those words in the first place and did you actually mean them at the time. I'm guessing no, which is why you want to take those words back. Sadly, you can't or atleast its not that simple. You need to be honest with yourself and you need to be honest with this guy. Often the truth hurts so you can't avoid the issue. Be honest with him, he'll respect you for that atleast.
2006-08-30 11:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. How does he feel for you? From what you wrote, he didn't answer when you accidentally said you love him. So, maybe he doesn't love you, just like you don't actually love him.
Don't say you didn't mean it. Just say it didn't come out right. You were trying to say that you care about him and have a strong feeling towards him, but not exactly sure what it is. And that you really like to find out what it is, if he's interested.
2006-08-30 11:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Little Detective 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you how strongly I mean it when I say "TELL HIM THE TRUTH." If you want a long term relationship with someone you need to be able to talk to that person and say anything.
Tell him the real truth about all of it and if he is the right one then it Will be fine. If he doesn't understand or is freaked out then he isn't the right one. Either way, you have to be able to talk to the person you are with. Good luck.
2006-08-30 10:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, it actually the best policy. If you try to lie about it then you're just going to stumble overmore lies. Tell him that you do like him alot, however not as much as what came spewing out of your mouth and that you just want to slow down on the sex.
2006-08-30 10:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have spoken out of your mouth you can't take it back its gone but don't say hurtful things either,it sounds like what you said is in your heart but haven't caught up to your feelings yet.
2006-08-30 11:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by Me-Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really take it back without hurting him. You didn't actully say that you are in love with him, you just said you are falling in love with him. To me, thats a big difference. It just means that things are headed in the right direction.
2006-08-30 10:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you don't have to take back what you have said,anyway you just told him that you are falling in love w/ him,doesn't mean you already in love w/ him.So next time try to think first before you speak,and try to think any consequences of whatever you are going to do in life.Always be true to yourself and pls don't play other people feelings.
2006-08-30 11:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by msshy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha you should never be the first to tell a guy you love him especially when you have only been together less than a year. Also you shouldn't be having sex with him until you marry.
Source:
Your Momma
2006-08-30 10:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Contesta 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋