Me and my girlfriend are having a bit of a "wierd" time lately. We're not gonna break-up or anything (and I'm totally in love with her), but things are just kind of depressing on my side right now.
I'm one of those people who can't enjoy themselves when they have something else going wrong in the back of their mind, and I almost find it impossible to stop thinking about her - she means the world to me.
I can't really discuss it with her or anything, because the problem isn't something "discussable", as such. I don't know if she's feeling the way I am, but I'm pretty sure she's not fretting as much as me. Naturally, I'm always one to worry and she's not, so...
Anyhow, I just don't want to feel like I do, because there's nothing truly wrong, but if things aren't perfect with her, it tends to literally ruin my life.
I want to feel happy and stop worrying, but when it's always on my mind, it stops me from feeling anything BUT depressed. I hang out with friends a lot, but...
2006-08-30
03:42:44
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...it still doesn't take my mind off of it. I'll feel happy and relaxed, and then remember that things aren't that great with her.
2006-08-30
03:43:17 ·
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If you say you guys are not going to break up that is good. You need to start focusing on the positive aspects of your relationship. It seems as though you are only dwelling on the negative. You are wasting allot of time being depressed when you could be enjoying time with your girlfriend. Sometimes you just need to let things go and live in the moment. I am sure there have been many opportunities where you could have enjoyed time with your girlfriend but you were only focused on the negative. Every relationship has its ups and downs but it is how we deal with these phases that makes one relationship last and the other end. Along with trying to make your relationship better focus also on the positive aspects.
2006-08-30 03:56:12
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answered by strawberries 5
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remember that every relationship is going to have their ups and downs.... you should remember that everything is going good b/c there are some bad things... (it has to get dark before it can get dawn).
don't think about how things aren't going good with you too, think about how blessed you two are to have each other.
when you say that it is undisscussable, i think it should not be that way. the reason is b/c communication is very vital no matter what happens...
so talk, listen, get everything off of your chest.. then you will truely feel better.
also, you have to show her your affection... all girls want their guy to show how much and to tell them... so remember, open your mouth and get out everything you have kept in.
2006-08-30 10:52:56
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answered by Anonymous
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ok Im GUESSING that the worry and upset is something to do with your relationship?? Then I think you'll have to discuss it with your girlfriend - you do sound totally in love with her, which is good, but if you keep this up its going to eat away at you and you may end up driving a wedge between ye. If you'd like an impartial unjudging ear to listen to your dillema - feel free to mail me. Talking often helps you see things clearer
2006-08-30 10:47:53
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answered by Anonymous
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just stick it out, we all go through times like that in relationships. it's just that things don't always stay the same. we have our good times and bad. sometimes it lasts a while. you aren't going to solve anything by hanging out w/ your friends instead of dealing w/ her though, it'll only make it worse. before you can make her happy you have to be happy w/ yourself. be honest about what is going on, keep her updated as well.(honey, it's not you I have a lot on my mind and I'm in a bad mood) me and my boyfriend go through this, some days I just feel sad but it's not his fault, I get frustrated and might take it out on him, and him /me. if you love her give it time, it will work out. don't give up!!!
2006-08-30 10:53:21
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answered by drgn grl 3
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This is really simple to fix just follow these easy steps and it will be all right
*Stop the crybaby **** man, worst stuff happens to others all the time.
*think about how you worring about your girl and being depressed will kill your relationship and then you'll be alone.
*Find a vent to relax away from friends and you gf like boxing running, softball, video games whatever.
*Get a grip just because it's not perfect it ruins your life c'mon man "life is suffering to survive is to find meaning in the suffering" -DMX
2006-08-30 10:58:50
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answered by bigmj75 2
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Stop worrying, every problem has a solution. Maybe if you two discussed your problems more often you wouldn't have to worry so much! Also, you need to be careful as excessive worrying can lead to stress and other health risks....good luck!
2006-08-30 10:54:14
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answered by johnavaro 3
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It sounds like you are depressed and the relationship won`t work out, until you talk to someone who can help you overcome your depressive issues.
I, also have struggled with this, and my relationships as a wife and a mom got much better and I got stronger to deal with "real life" issues.
Take care of yourself and other things will work out as well.
2006-08-30 10:52:42
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answered by Jillibean 2
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well no one can really help becuase we don't know the situation but in a relationship nothing should be so bad that it can't be discussed. communication is the key and talking about things usually makes you feel better
2006-08-30 10:47:16
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answered by Anonymous
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i feel exactly like you sometimes and you sound like you have depression. go see a doctor and tell them what you are feeling they will determine if you need some professional help. depression can ruin alot of things in your life if you dont get help...trust me i know.
2006-08-30 10:49:57
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answered by michelle 5
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Maybe you should talk to her about it...
if she loves you back she'll help you.
If that doesn't work, I'd see a therapist!
2006-08-30 10:48:24
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answered by *only~wishful~thinking* 3
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