Recently, i cuaght my sons father in the act of abuse and i asked my son why he hadn't told me and he said cause he could just deal with it and didn't want to ruin my life WHAT SHOULD I DO
2006-08-30 03:22:07 · 23 answers · asked by dOnNa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know how old your son is, but children can NEVER deal with abuse in a positive way. Somewhere in his life this abuse will come back to haunt him, even if he represses it for 20 or 30 years.
You, as his mother, have a duty to protect him first and foremost. It doesn't matter if HE thinks he can handle it. You as his mother, know that this is not a healthy thing to have happen to him. Just as if he were to tell you that he could handle doing drugs, you would know better.
You need to contact Child Protective Services in your state and make a formal report. If you don't, then you stand to have your child taken away from you and placed in foster care. When the truth comes out, and it will, and you did nothing to keep this man away from your child - they will determine that you failed to protect him and remove him from your home.
After you contact the authorities, and make sure this man does not have access to your child, you need to get him and yourself into some counseling. Sexual abuse is the worst thing that can happen to a child because it tears down the sacred boundaries that have been set. When a parent does something like this to a child, they determine in their minds that they cannot trust anyone. If someone you are supposed to trust does something so heinous - then who is to say that the rest of the world won't do something too.
I hope that you understand that you need to intervene NOW. You hold his future in your hands, and you must stop this.
Good luck.
2006-08-30 03:41:36 · answer #1 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ifnd it hard to believe that any mother could ask this. This is your son!!You didn't whether it was was sexual abuse, physical abuse, or verbal. You need to get rid of this man, put him jail or prison if the abuse warrants it and get your son a counselor.
Even though many kids growup thinking and saying that they will never do those things to their kids when they grow up the do anyway, because that is the only way the know. Please stop this cycle of abuse before it starts. Also know that if you continue to let it go on and do nothing stop it, you can also be prosecuted.
2006-08-30 03:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Faith M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO TO THE COPS!!!! Your son only thinks he can deal with this but it will haunt him for years.
It's your job as a mother to do everything you can to protect your son.
There is NEVER a reason to abuse a child. Your son needs to know that you love him and that you will do everything in this world to protect him.
Remind your son it's not his fault and that he can come to you whenever he need to.
Find out how long this has been going on and get your son some mental help so he can really learn to deal with this.
I hope this helps.
2006-08-30 03:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by David C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get family counseling real quick. Your son doesn't need to be around an abusive father. It will hurt him in the long run. And don't hesitate to do something. With abusers there is always the possibility they may go to far and put the victim in a hospital or worst.
2006-08-30 03:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell someone. There are long term psychological consequences to abuse that could be dealt with early so that they will not plague the person who got abused later in life. Also, the abuser needs help too. No one is doing anyone any favors by continued to remain silent.
2006-08-30 03:29:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you didn't come on here to ask us what to do? Where are your parental instincts? You are suppose to protect your child at whatever cost!!! Children will say theyu can deak with a lot of things but in actuality it end up messing with something else, their schoolwork social life, self esteem, etc... You need to put some hot grits on the stove and pour them on that kids father, let him see how it feels to be abused. I'm too fed up to say anything else, I can go on and on but i'll let it stop there.
2006-08-30 04:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun. abuse is serious and its a guys ego, he sis he can deal with it but u know he cant and who know s when the abuse can get way out of hand
try counseling or something and if that doesn't work than u have no other choice but to maby leave him to protect your son
2006-08-30 03:46:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abuse is abuse. Your son is probably putting up a brave front. He's psychologically disturbed now and in the future. He has to deal with this the correct way. If her were to keep it with him and not seek professional help, it'd be devastating to his future. But first, report that damn bastard who abused your son. As a parent, you are obliged to protect your kid!
2006-08-30 03:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Raven 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give more info please. Are you seperated from this beast? He needs to be reported immediately. Trust me, that pain will stay with you for the rest of your or there lives. If I was a freind of yours and found out later that you didn't report him, I'd be very pissed off at you. You were meant to see this for a reason. Stop this animal before he ruins others lives. Please get your son some help ASAP.
2006-08-30 03:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the cops and have him arrested. Your son may think he can deal with this, but he will have serious emotional and mental problems in the future without counseling. Protect your child!!!!!
2006-08-30 03:28:29 · answer #10 · answered by minna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋