I`m inlove with my girlfriend but she seems not to feel the same thing. for me.
2006-08-30 03:21:30 · 28 answers · asked by Dan M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to listen to yourself. If this is truely not what is best for you then move on. When people are very emotional it is hard for them to see the answer; you need to believe what your self is telling you. In order to not be hurt ever again you have to be in NOW. That is to not look at yesterday or tomorrow but here and NOW. Once you do this you will be totally present and things will not seem as bad. Every event is only a perception of what is or what isn't. Take away perception and there really is nothing there. Only you have the answer, you just have to believe yourself.
2006-08-30 03:32:06 · answer #1 · answered by Leighbucks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know what your expectations are. And be reasonable about setting them.
If you feel that your life is not "complete" without a woman, then chances are you are going to be hurt by them.
If you feel that you are a great person with a full and complete life, but you simply would like a woman for companionship...then you won't be as hurt when the nature of the relationship changes.
That said, the entire nature of "love" is to open yourself up to the other person. To make yourself vulnerable. Its only after you have given the other person the "power" to hurt you that REALLY love them.
2006-08-30 03:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by glenspot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it is obvious for anyone to know that if the other person doesn't feel the same way in a relationship then you are probably with the wrong person...always be honest and open about your feelings and expectations within a relationship so that each one is aware of what kind of relationship is wanted from the other...what you want may not be what she/he wants at the time, but both like each other...hope you understand what I mean.
2006-08-30 03:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dan, even when you find the woman you truly love, you still will get hurt. The fights you'll have with her will hurt because you love each other so much. You can't stop getting hurt. It's going to happen. Ask your girl how she feels, don't come away with a mixed message. Try to get it as clear as possible. Good luck!
2006-08-30 03:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by All I have to do is dream... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you know or do - love hurts!!! Have you tried talking to your girlfriend about this? Im sure if she loves you she'll change her attitude toward you - however if she doesnt love you you should be able to tell from her reaction, and whilst I know you'll be hurting, it may be best to move on to a lady that will appreciate and love you teh way you love them. All relationships have their ups and downs and they can go from being estatically happy to miserable. They're hard work, but if both partners are willing to endure and work at them, its the best feeling in the world. I wish you luck!
2006-08-30 03:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad but hurt goes along with any relationship. Any time you open up to someone you're letting them get close to you and that's the most vunerable thing you can do. Keep your head up though, realtionships aren't all that bad, and if this one doesn't work there will be someone out there waiting for you and that will make you more comfortable than before.
And disregard idiots who answer your questions with "lol good luck". (See your first answer).
2006-08-30 03:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by goldiemcg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO-- go live on a deserted island on your own. If you are not prepared to risk getting hurt than you are not really living.it is a chance we all take -
Question for you? can you be 100% certain that you won't hurt anyone for the remainder of your life,
2006-08-30 03:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, you have to go through it just like everyone else if your blind about it! However, you already know and you can't make anyone love you as much as you love them! I say get out while you can before she hurts you and even if you stay and she doesn't cheat or leave you it will always feel unbalanced just because of the fact she doesn't feel as strongly as you do about her will always bother you even if she learns to love you just as much over time. How do I know, it used to be me!
2006-08-30 03:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are never any guarantees that anyone of us will not get hurt again,,thats just love and life. if she doesnt feel the same way for you,,then maybe shes not the one for you...or you are expecting too much from her at the moment. give her time ,,you cant make her fall in love with you,,she will if and when shes ready.
2006-08-30 03:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot avoid getting hurt. you can try to screen your choices a little better. sometime looks are deceiving. always make sure how a woman feel about you before you go any further. some people jump into a relationship because they like someone. nah........before jumping into anything find out what they all about and how feel about you. and please do not mistake it with "what they think about you", it's a big difference. and talk to your girlfriend about her feelings before you jump into conclusion. if she doesn't love you, I guess you know what to do.
always chose someone that chose you, not someone that you chasing.
2006-08-30 03:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by Marlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋