I have a 11 year in 6th for the past couple years he has not liked school at all he doesn't do homework and almost failed last year
he is so disorganized and he won't write down his homework like i tell him to and he is always forgetting something at home. I don;t know what to do i have punished in everyway what else is ther for me to do. i know boys are hard headed but why why doesn;t he care
parents please help
2006-08-30 02:41:42 · 15 answers · asked by Sexy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
His father is not in the picture but my brother is very close with him he takes a lot of time with him and talks to him. I actually moved to be closer to my bro for this reason.
2006-08-30 02:55:07 · update #1
Sounds like me when I was that age, a looooooooooooooong time ago.
Pressure won't work, as you have tried that.
Sit down with him and draw up a contract. If he does A, B and C he gets X. If he fails to do A, B and C he looses Y. This has to be negotiated with him, don't dictate the terms.
For example, if you do your homework by 6 pm, then you get to spend 1 hour on Y!A.
If you want new Heelys, then you must remember to bring all your school stuff for 2 weeks.
For school related stuff, work with the teacher.
2006-08-30 03:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason you need to get to the bottom of. Children don't just not like going to school. Is there a bully? Is there a learning disability that you are unaware of? How is he with friends? Does he invite/play with the children from his class? Is he avoiding someone/thing? Has he had the same teacher sometimes we dont get along with people as adults and we need to remember that everyone is not compatible with everyone else children experience this too. Can he follow instructions at home does he have chores that he carries out properly or are thay not complete? This could indicate a deficit disorder like ADD which is different than ADHD. I would have him assesed by the school board for a learning disability. Finnaly you might hjust have a little geinious on your hands who is totally bored by school. Good luck
2006-08-30 09:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by cameron b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the teacher will cooperate, you may be able to have him/her send his assignments home. Some schools have websites you can check. Sit down with him everynight (weather he admits to having homework or not) and if he doesn't have homework, have an assignment for him. Some kids just don't like school. There is always homeschooling where you can definitely keep track of his work and assignments.
2006-08-30 12:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by cstefan25 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use tough love. Slowly start taking things from him until he gets the picture.
Good luck!!!!! Education is very important.
2006-08-30 10:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by nyny Sexy 33 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds exaclty like my 8th grader. Have you seen the doctor to ask him to refer you to a phsychologist to be tested. It could be he has ADHD or ADD. My son was diagnosed with ADHD in 2nd grade.
My son's behavior also seems to be improving as he gets older and want's more responsibilty. I tell him if he can't remember to bring home his homework and do it maybe he is not responsible enough to go over to a freinds house, to DQ, etc....
GOOD LUCK :)
2006-08-30 09:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by lcritter55118 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it seems like something is going on that he is not telling you about. maybe there could be problems at school. but if everything turns out okay i would try to get him a tutor. they really can help getting lazy students together and it can build confidence too.
2006-08-30 09:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by stella 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to help him and to see where level he's on then get a male role in his life. It will be hard without a education.
2006-08-30 09:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by msmidnight1986 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is having problems at school. Maybe get in touch with the guidance counselor
2006-08-30 09:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by MC 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What about his father? Is his father involved? He needs a male father figure to put a boot up his a$$.
2006-08-30 09:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
is he depressed? studies have shown recently and over time that depression starts early. counseling? maybe the big brother program or maybe even a mentor.
2006-08-30 09:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by niki s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋