I need some advice please.....?

Question

i have been with this girl for about year off and on but some how when we break up we always get back together i am feeling that its not meant to be but we are always getting back together. I love this girl with all my heart but i am at my breaking point i dont what to do any ideas?

Answer 1

well why cant you guys be together? parents/family/religion problem?

what you need to remember is... if you love and care for her that much, then you have to put her BEFORE you... so what's best for her? i'm sure you know it.... so just do it! do you want her to be truly happy? what do you need to do for that?

if it's something that you know isnt gonna happen... then you have to let her move on for her own good... if not yours.. you'll have to be the strong one and make sure she doesnt make you melt... talk to her straiht and tell her its not happening. you'll have to cut her off if she doesn't get the point.. change your number/email address, etc. whatever it takes.. you know you can do it... and you'll soon be a happier person

Answer 2

You know I think you'll two are both just ucustomed and use to each other and that is preceisley why you get back together. It may be a sort of love but you both don't seem to really "love" each other b/c if you did you wouldn't bare breaking up with each other not even for five minutes!!! Have a wonderful day and I hope everything works out and even if it doesn't you will always be able to find someone else that is probably more concentrated on you and your new affair...

Answer 3

Off and on breaking up shows that it is something that keep you together or your breaking up would have broke off the relationship.

Now, what I say is to see what it is that make you all break up and focus on fixing the problem.

If you have a off and on relationship you must have some type of feelings for each other which is a first step to fixing whatever problems you both have.

So in order to get over feeling its not meant to be and focus on why you are still together and build off of that.

I also suggest communication with your mate not arguing because when you argue neither of you are listening to the real problems.

Now I say all of this to say if you just can't get along then you have all the right to move on to what make you happy so Good Luck.

Answer 4

This is probably not this particular girl that's so great but the feeling itself. Such push-pull situation is very addictive, makes you think about it all the time - about what you did, what she did, what you should have done etc. Vicious circle once entered is difficult ot get out from.. This is not true love, but a feeling artificially blown out of proportions. People crave excitement, some more than others but I went through such mess and it takes so much of your energy it's not worth it. You clearly don't get on with her. Stay away from this girl and find something else to occupy your thoughts - possibly another girl you might like with whom you can have a proper relationship. This won't be easy and moving away would help a lot, but this is not always possible. Good luck

Answer 5

Work out the problems in your relationship and don't be so overly emotional as to break up with her so many times. Yes relationships get rough, yes they can be emotionally draining and more like being wrangled alive but that's just the way everyone has it. Give your relationship a good try and work out yoru differences, don't give up on each other so frequently. If you love her, you should be able to give this effort.

Answer 6

Once you break up, you should stop looking at her as a girl you can get together with again. Simply don't look at her that way anymore. Once you break up she becomes "one of the pals". Totally asexual and totally not someone you would want to be involved with. You can be great friends because you probably know a lot about each other and have a lot in common, but don't let yourself go to her because it's convenient. She is simply not available. Tell yourself that again and again. "She is a friend. She is a friend. She is a friend." and also "I can never date my friends. I can never date my friends."

Once you realize that it is impossible for you to be together, just as it is impossible for you to be with your best guy friend (i'm assuming you're not bi), it should be easy for you to go out into the world and look for another girl.

Good luck :)

Answer 7

Stop dating anyone for a month. Create some personal goals for yourself. Such as getting a promotion, going back to school, new wardrobe, part-time job, new hobby, new trade, etc. Start doing diverse activites - flag football team, volleyball team, etc. This will get your mind off of her and getting you meeting new people.

Answer 8

Follow your heart and if YOU think its the right thing to do then do so, becasue like you said you still love her. But my question is why did you break up so many times?

Answer 9

sounds like you both have a love-hate thing going on.

do a separation...don't actually break-up, but take a breather from one another for a few days or even a week and see if that clears anything up...

if y'all think about one another the whole time while your separated,,,then its possibly meant to be

but if neither of you cross one anothers mind the whole time your apart...then i don't think i need to tell you what that means!

Answer 10

u need to talk to her - explain how you're feeling and that you've come to a point that you are only willing to stay in this relationship provided ye both act more mature with it and avoid this breaking up crap - it either doesnt happen at all - or its a permanent arrangement.