you are friends with her ex boyfriend and you think she is super sute.She caught him cheating on her.you see her out one night and she talks to you about it and you listen and understand,she asks you to drive her home and invites you to stay.she puts on a t shirt only and asks you to sleep int he bed with her, you do,she asks you to put your arm around her,you do till she sleeps.Would you feel awkward the next morning? Would you be awkward around your buddy for sleeping in the bed with her? Would you have feelings for her? Would you want her bad?
2006-08-30 02:28:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be very weary of a girl who has been recently hurt. Does she know you are friends with her Ex? If so I would be even more weary , I would wonder if she was trying to use you to get back at him. If you didn't do anything with this girl I don't really feel that you have any reason to feel guilty towards your friend obviously he didn't really care too deeply for this girl if he went out and cheated on her....But for you I would be very careful your feelings are genuine, for both your sakes. Your on very unstable ground with her and obviously both very full of conflicting emotions ...I would just be there for her for the time being and take things VERY slowly don't fall into the pity trap or the need to be the big protector you could end up getting hurt. Just be careful and keep it breezy if it was meant to happen you will know.
2006-08-30 02:40:43 · answer #1 · answered by Erin O. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were ur friend i'd kick ur as s... i know u wanted to lend ur ear to hear her out but u need to realize that ur loyalty is to ur friend not her.. u should've told her i dont' feel comfortable discussing my friend w/u about ur relationship.. u should've told her that she would be better off talking to one of her friends..
u gave her a ride home and that's nice but why did u stay? why did u allow her to change into a t-shirt? why didn't u tell her no that u won't sleep w/her in the bed and that's it's inappopriate? why didn't u just drop her off and tell her good night..
i wouldn't trust u if my life depended on it.. now what's gonna happen if ur friend and her get back together.. u need to let him know what went down, and u need to let her know that what u and her did was wrong and that it won't happen again....
keeping it from him ain't right and it would be better from him to hear it from u then her anyway...
2006-08-30 09:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful with this one... you could be opening up a can of worms with your friend. He made a mistake, I don't think you should prey on the mistake that he made. She's probably just going to use you to get back at her ex. If that doesn't matter, then go for it... it will be a booty call for ya!
2006-08-30 09:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't feel awkward r anything but if that did happen then I'd just feel like I'm being a good friend.. i might end up having feelings for her but it'd be more like consoling her as a friend than anything else.. i wouldn't mention it to my buddy..
2006-08-30 09:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by sesh48 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say her man cheated on her, so basically your playing an open field. You can tell she wants you....you don't sleep next to someone in just a t-shirt. See where this goes, maybe you two have something special.
2006-08-30 09:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by limeallure 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Theres a lot a woulds in your question. I wouldn't feel awkward around anybody, that fast I wouldn't have feelings for her....it would take time, I wouldn't want her bad until we developed a relationship and then it would have to be a mutual agreement.
2006-08-30 09:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like she wants you! But only you can decide on how to feel, it's your friend and your emotions no one else.
2006-08-30 09:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you have done it if you don't have feelings for her? Answer YES. Does it matter if you did go for it? Answer NO.
Just do it, because it don't matter what anyone else thinks just what you think. Hope you are up for a **** storm :P
2006-08-30 09:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude... She probably wants you too. She would NOT have invited you in and done all that stuff if she didnt like you too. If she's not with him and he cheated on her... sounds like he didnt really like her all that much anyways.. I say go for it!
2006-08-30 09:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she wants to use u watch out
u may stoke with her bf with trouble
anf if u had done all that u r nothing
2006-08-30 09:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by john t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋