I had a misscarriage in May and one of my friends that got pregnant the same time of me is still pregnant. When we get together with the rest of our friends. No one will talk about her pregnancy because of me. Someone new to our friends started talking about it and then another person grabbed her and whispered what happened to me. I have gotten past what happened and this is driving me crazy! I want to be able to talk about my friends pregnancy and everything she is going through. What can I do to let them know without being rude.
I do understand they are doing it to be nice to me.
Also some of these women I don't know that well
2006-08-30 02:25:07 · 7 answers · asked by Tazaor 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I understand both sides, hon, been there, done that. I lost a child after carrying him for seven monthes. I found that the women "shunned" me and didn't want to talk to me at all. It was right around mom's day, and the way the women treated me bordered on cruelty. For several years, everytime I pulled nursery duty at church, their were whispers, like yours that doing such would be hurtful, when, infact, it was the most healing.
Talk to your friend, let her know that you are happy for her and that you're doing okay. All else fails, be rude about it.
2006-08-30 02:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by KoKo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend who is still pregnant how you feel. That you want to know everything she's going through. Tell her you have come to terms with your own grief and want to share her experience. Tell her to tell the rest of the group that you don't want to be excluded anymore or for them to pretend her pregnancy isn't happening. They are just trying to protect you, it's normal for them to do that. Only you can be the one to tell them it's all OK.
Good luck and I'm glad you have managed to get over your loss, you are obviously a brave, strong woman. xx.
2006-08-30 02:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even tho she may have not commonly used about the being pregnant formerly the miscarriage once a women knows shes pregnant she loves whats interior her, and a miscarriage for her, is the shortcoming of a baby, not purely a technique. and the hormones concerning being pregnant and a miscarriage also will influence her reaction. Dont attempt to make her tell u what shes feeling, because my wager is that shes feeling devastated, theres not something u can say or do to make her sense extra constructive. purely sit including her and carry her if she needs, in view that ur the in ordinary words convenience she has immediately!
2016-12-05 23:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by keeter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time that you are out you should just ask her about her pregnancy and if she is not there then ask someone else about how she is doing and just tell them that you know that they are trying to keep your feelings in mind but that you have gotten over your miscarriage and that you would just like to move on with your life and that you have no problem with her being pregnant and that you would like to be there to support her through her pregnancy i really dont think that it is rude to let people know that you are doing okay after your loss and you just want to move on
2006-08-30 02:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your loss. I too have had a miscarriage,though it isn't an easy thing to go through,talking about it does help.
First thank them for wanting to spare your feelings and then just explain to them you need to talk to them about it. And that you are happy for your friend and are interested in all the details of the things she maybe going through.
2006-08-30 02:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them it's ok. I mean after all they are your friends, you should be able to tell them.
2006-08-30 02:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by soon2b mommy of 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them it's OK .. an that it makes you feel worse , when they act that way toward you !
2006-08-30 02:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋