No child support, emotional support or pysical presence.
2006-08-30 02:22:06 · 20 answers · asked by kristin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Assuming the father is either dead, or a dead beat, rather depends on how YOU treat your son and how you talk about his father. Enjoy your son, and involve yourself in his life as much as you can. Be honest with him about his father without hatred and malice, for such will not serve you well.
Be strong, dear one.
2006-08-30 02:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotionally, physically, and mentally. Hon, you need to get busy tryign to change all of this. First, get money that is due to you through child support.
What is the problem dad is not involved if he is a safe person for your child to be around encourage father to spend time with him. If the father has family nearby use them too. Especially if he is African-American.
I am speaking from experience my ex was not invovled for the first five years. I got him on child support, and he does not like jail or work realease so he complies with the payments. We put our differneces aside and talk only about our son's well being. My son's confidence, emotional well being, and asthma improved dramatically! I get a break from being the only caregiver.
I know now that my child will not grow up with issues of abondonment, anger, isolation.
I suggest if the father is unwilling to participate, contact a big brother or big sister organization through United Way. Involve him in sports, or find a good church home where positive male role models exsist and have his best intrest at heart. Boy Scouts, clubs got any grandpas, uncles, male friends to take dads place?
Basically, just get him involved so he won't feel abondoned. I think there is a website called www.fatherhood.org that covers these issues.
2006-08-30 02:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go after the father and get him to pay child support and any back child support first of all. You deserve that and so does your son, you can put it in a college fund so that if he still does not have a relationship with his father his whole life atleast he can benefit from him monetarily by getting an education.
Next, I would insist that he try to meet with his son every once in while, it is rare for a mother to care that much, but it is trully healthy for him to atleast know his father.
Also, he may benefit from having a relationship with his siblings if there are any or if there ever will be from the father.
I would say do everything in your power to make this relationship happen, it is your duty as a mother because he may grow happier.
2006-08-30 02:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stepfather of 2 boys. (18 & 15) Raised them since they were 5 & 2. It depends on how much the father was a part of his life when he left. If he's never been a part of his life, it won't matter. If he was there for a while, it might affect him. The good news is, he's taken to your current boyfriend and for now, it's enough. He might want to go and talk w/his real dad at a later date. Right now, what's important is that he has a father figure. That's going to make a big difference in his life at this stage. Don't hide anything from your son concerning his real father. Always be truthful. Good luck.
2006-08-30 03:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a father's absence will have a huge impact on his son, because they don't have that figure in their life to help them through manly issues. I see it my family with cousins of mine. A mother can only do so much. It is a know fact that a son needs his father in his life. He needs him to learn from, and also to have support. There are some sons that are strong enough to handle their fathers' absence, but the majority cannot. You might want to look into counseling, or maybe a compromise with the father.
2006-08-30 02:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i get no child support and my son doesnt see his dad and he lives 5 min away. he doesnt bother with my son even though he has 7 other kids,,,,my son is the only one he doesnt see. his half brothers have started coming around because they are wanting to know my son. which i think is great. as far as effecting my son...im not sure yet. i try my best to be there for him all the time and my boyfriend,,,hopefully he will grow up just fine with our help.
2006-08-30 02:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it's going to effect him in some way. The extreme depends on you and other adult influences. Just love him and always be there for him. Try to have some POSITIVE male figures in his life so that he understands this is not how most men are.
2006-08-30 02:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will effect him because typically boys learn to be men from their fathers but at the same time great men have been raised by strong single women
2006-08-30 02:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by donise225 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did not see much of his Fater after the age of 3 and it did not affect him at all.
My son looks up to my current boyfriend of a couple years as the Dad.
2006-08-30 02:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they're are a number of things that could affect him...but just surround him with love and pray that God give you the wisdom and strength to support your son in every aspect of his life growing up...only you will know when your son is grown enough to understand and explain to him where his father is...and be sure to take care of yourself too in the process...
2006-08-30 04:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_latina830 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋