I have been with the same guy for 6 years and he asked me to marry him and I said Yes, but the truth is I think i have feelings for
another guy, I really like him and i'm really happy when i see him.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?????????????
2006-08-30 02:01:43 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go out with him a few times. You are going to have to. What if you marry this other guy, and you always think about the other guy. That wouldn't be fare to your husband. What if he was thinking of another woman. Whenever you are stuck in a situation, think of how the other oerson would feel...
2006-08-30 02:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by luv him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, always follow your instinct. You can not marry someone if you are not 100% into the relationship point blank. Marriage is a commitment for life if you are not sure now, then the likely hood of the marriage ever lasting is slim to none. You are human, and allowed to change your mind. Don't let people think your bad cause you are having mixed emotions, atleast you are addressing them now instead of later on down the line. It isn't fair to your or your fiancee think it through and really give it thought. Good luck in your decision, and no matter what your choice is no choice is bad. You are the one that has to live with it.
2006-08-30 10:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering how old or young you are.
If you have a crush on someone else then you CAN"T be engaged. If you worry about hurting your guy so you don't tell him; How worse would it be if you marry him then you wander off.
I don't think you need to tell your guy that other guy. Just give the ring back and tell him that you just realized that you arn't ready for such a commitment. He will beg and try to change your mind.,. Don't let him sway you back or you will resent it the rest of your life. You only have one life to live it do you want to live your life trying to make sure their life is good when in reality bad things happen.
Just don't walk dont the isle in a panic. Best to end this now and not 15 years from now when you are juggling kids and this man '
Give yourself a couple of days to make up your mind, and once you do you just do it.
Best wished to you,
2006-08-30 09:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it really hard cause once you make up your mind you can't go back. Are you willing to leave a good guy for this other guy? Does the other guy have very thing you want?I s the new guy looking for the same things in a relation ship as you? Or will it just be a quick fling for him. I found out before you don't know what you have until you lose it. GOOD LUCK.
2006-08-30 09:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how long have u known the 'other guy' because after 6 years u know what that guy has to offer but the other guy is an unknown quantity. the guy of 6 years looks like he wants to spend the rest of his time with u since hes spent 6 years already when normally it only lasts 1-3 years before a relationship goes sour.
2006-08-30 09:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by The Ego 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself - am I ready to spend my entire life with my fiance? Do I love and respect him? How would I feel if he disappears from my life? Free and happy or lost and missing him badly?
Even if you decide to stay with your boyfriend there is something missing in your life. Maybe it's excitement?
Talk to him how to make your life more interesting - surprise each other with a sudden trip somewhere or enroll together to a dancing/cooking/any other course or take up a sport to have some fun together. This can help you decide if he is your best friend for life before is too late - with a divorce and children involved.
2006-08-30 09:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Feniks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you shouldn't have said yes unless you were 150% sure...marriage is a big thing, HUGE...Tell your guy that you're just not sure and you need some "me" time..search your heart and see what you truly want...could be the thought of settling down scares you or maybe you don't truly love this guy enough to marry him....either way, be fair to both him AND yourself and take a step back to see what your heart really wants.
2006-08-30 09:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you realize you had feeling for this other guy before or after you said yes to the guy that asked you to marry him?
You will have to make a decision eventually.
2006-08-30 09:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell him u are really into another guy and it is not meant to be, Tell him u like him and all but not as much as u do the other guy
If my advice is not a best anwser
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Good Luck
2006-08-30 09:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with your feeling with this other guy before getting married.
He needs to do the same...if you don't...you will sooner or later and it will ruin your marriage.
there is not a 57% divorce rate for nothing...
find your true self... search out the right decision for the LONG term and then move on it.
2006-08-30 09:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋