I live in a town which i dislike and i only know say three or four people with one i can ask a favour from - i am struggling with debts, rent, and general living! I dont have much of a social life and spend my days making music working and watching tv. Why do I have all this in my life you say..........I stay here for my son as me and his mum split 2 years ago - I was with him for his first four years and have seen him nigh on everyweekend since the split - he is a gorgeous, intelligent boy who is now nearly 6 years old and i know that what i have already done has helped him get through things so I have no concern about his mental state. what I am starting to find is there is nothing for me but a struggle to keep working and keeping myself company because i dont earn enough to go out and make friends or meet new people. I refuse to be a dead beat daddy! but when he is grown he wont be concerned about me he will have his own life - what do I do ? stuck, catch 22...........???
2006-08-30 01:36:28 · 12 answers · asked by rampant_rocky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pardon me for saying this, but You have to think of yourself as well!!! If you are not making enough money to get by on, how is that helping you??? Get out there and find a better paying job, then you will feel better!!!
2006-08-30 01:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u go I am a single mom raised both my kids daughter 20 and son 17 started when I was 15 and divorced now 10 years n dept up 2 my @ss but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and u can do it. It is a great feeling when u acomplish raising kids the best day is graduation days u feel u have made life worth while. stick n there don't worry bout the dept life is 2 short 2 worry. get out of the house and say the hell with everyone else u know u r a good person go meet people even if it is goin 2 the movies by yourself which is nice 2 .
2006-08-30 08:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Happi @ss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start small. It does not take much to entertain your son. He is only 6 and there are things that you can do that cost little to nothing, The next time you get him then here are some suggestions that you can do with him and he will be very excited and pleased.
1. Take him to the library and get him a library card.
2. Take him to a neighborhood park and pack a picnic.
3. Take him camping, fishing , or hiking
Those are just a few suggestions.
As far as you not meeting friends. Not that hard at all ... You have three or four friends , What are their interests, Maybe one night y'all can go bowling (which is another thing that you can do with your son)
4. If you believe in God then go to church. You will meet many people there and they have get together's of all sorts , Our church has a single parent night and its where like we all went bowling with our children and got to meet alot of other single parents and their children,
Those are just a few suggestions and I hope that more people respond to you and get some more excellant ideas..
Have a great day.
2006-08-30 08:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by Texas_tangent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I'm sure you can find yourself a better life without all these useless problems that, hell knows, nobody needs, and still be able to be there for your son.
Yet, I didn't really understand - you keep living in this town because your son lives in it?
If so, then, just get a place near this town.
You might have less time visiting and spending time with him,
but I'm sure that your son would like to know that you're happy, and you have good life, whether then knowing that the situation is opposite.
Have a good luck, whatever will happen.
2006-08-30 08:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Alice_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I just want to say thank you for being a GOOD Man, because most men think about them selves before they think about there children.. You just need to stop making excuses and do... Instead of watching TV go to a free event in your HOME town... If money is the issue find a second job to make ends meet or just for some spending money.. You need to mingle.. You need to let the outside world meet you and your wonderful children.. I believe that you can save money, start putting a dollar away a pay check and see what happens.. You have to learn to give your self some ME TIME... If you are all work and no play that is how you become stuck up and cold hearted... Your children need to see you interact with people so they can know their father...You don't want to wait until he is grown to get out either because then, you will forget just who you are... You are a single man with a good heart, open up and let us see... and if you just want some one to talk to about your day or just to listen you can reach me at.... shondalilbit69... on AIM messenger
2006-08-30 11:12:05 · answer #5 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion to you would be finding a better paying job. If that means going back to school for a few years then do it. After it's all over with, you will be so glad that you did it. How about meeting people through work? Surely, you don't work by yourself. Also, if you are a drinker, I would stop by the bars for happy hour. It's less crowded and you can stop on your way home from work. Start up a conversation with someone. Also, your son is school aged. Get involved at school, you'll meet other parents and maybe single moms. Kudos on you wanting to be a big part of your son's life. Good Luck.
2006-08-30 08:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Fool in the Rain 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your boy is going to need you for another 12 years or so. You say you only know 3 or four people in town, try to meet more, maybe you won't hate it so much. Get out from in front of the tv. Go walking, take up golf, join a team like softball or even bowling, find a club, like Lions, or Knights of Columbus. Volunteer at the library, or your kid's school. Meet other parents. Good luck!
2006-08-30 08:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by debean75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me there are a lot of ways available to meet people that don't cost any money at all. Go to a bookstore, many of them have a reading/social area. Take a book and read, but watch for an opportunity to meet someone and MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!! If you're not the bookstore type, find somewhere else to go -- community centers, parks, even support groups. It's awfully hard to meet new people when you cloister yourself at home in front of the TV set. They're not going to walk up and ring your doorbell, you know.
2006-08-30 08:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think that you have to 'earn enough to go out and make friends or meet new people?' Making friends doesn't have anything to do with money, really. You just need to get out of the house. I'm sure there is somewhere near you that you can and hang out without spending money. Or talk to people on the internet if that suits you better.
2006-08-30 08:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by stuckinamoment 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know I am applauding you and giving you a standing ovation..you sound like a great guy and an awesome dad...just keep faith...there is a reason for the struggle right now. I wish you the best of luck and who knows today in the elevator will be a cutie pie you never noticed before and there could be sparks...just keep on the bright side!!!
2006-08-30 08:44:30 · answer #10 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋