Which is more ethical...?

Question

Ok, my friend wont listen to me so Im gonna get the spoken word of the people. Which is more ethical?

a.) To date a girl who is pretty, fun, and the same age as you (theyre both 16), but is a grade lower (were talking about a junior guy and sophomore girl)
b.) To date a girl who is your same grade and very smart, but is 6 months older than you and not as pretty as the first girl.

Is it better to date the second one, maybe because its more likely that they could stay together? I already gave my friend my opinion, let's hear yours. 10 points to the most detailed anwser.

Answer 1

to tell you the truth when it is only a years difference it doesn't matter, one grade is not a big enough diffrence to be worried about. It all depends on the type of girl your friend likes, does he like to have more fun or is he more serious? He should date the person that he is most attracted to because most high school relationships do not last so have fun with them while you can. Good luck

Answer 2

Why would it be wrong to date the first girl? Chances are neither relatioship is going to work because they are young and for the most part young people go through many girl/boyfriends. There are those rare instances where a person marrys their highschool sweetheart.

I don't think the choice should be made based on age or the grade here. Now if he was junior wanting to date a girl in lets say 6th grade that would be wrong. Sense this is not the case I think the choice should be based on what they have in common.

Personally I would choose the smarter person but only if we had things in common. Of course I want it all, someone not only cute and fun but also someone who is smart. The intelligence of a person would be the first factor that I would look at but honestly I must say the way a person looks would have a role to play also.

If your friend is chooseing the other girl on looks alone and nothing else then I must say I do believe that is vain. I remember back in highschool (many many years ago) people had to have a certain look (natual beauty, clothes had to be in stlye) and one had to be popular if they wanted to date any of the "preps" (Basically "I will only date him if he makes me look good, I would never date the other person he is in the low class click.")

This isn't how I feel it's just an example of how some people think.

To sum this up he needs to choose based on personality, and what they have in common. If intelligence is an important factor then he needs to look at that also. In this case it's not the grade nor the age.

Answer 3

OK, just because someone is in the same grade doesn't mean anything. Each person is different and to ask which one is more ethical doesn't even make sense. Your advice to your friend should be to choose a girl who he feels more connected to, who he has more in common with, and who he feels a greater attraction for. This is the biggest mistake a lot of people make... they over analyze the situation instead of just doing what feels right. Why go with someone who everyone else says would be the better choice rather than going with who you like the best. It as simple as that really. Good luck to your friend.

Answer 4

I am not sure that the age or the grade, at this point, should be the question. What is important is whether 2 people like each other, like to be together and want to be together. Age does not in any way mean that the 2 people will stay together longer. If you date someone for their vital statistics and not because you actually like the person, you won't have fun and it won't last. Pretty isn't going to make the relationship last either. It's what's in your heart.

Answer 5

Ethical? I don't see any particular ethical problem with either one. As long as you are not selfish or mean or anything in your decision, either person seems to be fine. Neither age difference, nor the grade difference, are large enough to even be a consideration.

It's nice to think that we shouldn't let our actions be guided by things as cosmetic as "who's prettier," but that's ultimately a personal choice. It is also more practical to choose the one that you honestly have a better chance at succeeding with, in whatever goals you have set for yourself, as long as those goals are not detrimental to the other person.

Rather than make it a contest of pretty/not as smart vs. smart/not as pretty, I would recommend looking for both categories in both girls, so as to focus more on unique personality characteristics.

Answer 6

This isn't really a question of ethics. It's really just a personal preference issue. Besides, at that age, neither scenario is likely to lead to a long-term relationship.

Answer 7

Hmm.....do you know the meaning of the word ethical?

This question is not about ethics....and it seems you are more worried about dating a girl based on looks and what other people think.

I think the girls in this question should get together and re-think who they want to date.

Answer 8

I don't see where ethics comes in to play here but hey call it what you want. I think make a choice on the things you have listed would be silly. how about,who does your friend have more in common with and which girl has her head on straighter,and finally which could he trust more. thats what his decision she be based upon.

Answer 9

This is not a question of ethics. It is a question of manhood, something that you are just peeking thru the keyhole of the door to.

Answer 10

The one whose personality fits yours best.

I tried both in my youth and the older one was a bit snooty as she was older, therefore, I was unworthy