She means so much, I know I am young, but please help?

Question

She is the world to me, I dont want to move on unless I know for sure she doesnt have any feelings at all.??
what should i think?
this is what a girl I like emailed me, its obvious that she doesnt want to be more than friends, my question is, is it because she doesnt like me like that,? because she sure used to act like she liked me, and then she backed off, as if she was scared, but i think if she didnt feel anything at all , she would not have put the part about, ruining a frienship in there, please help??

hey,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

i mean shes only 13 and im 15..so i think shes scared..because, she wouldnt have acted like she did, if she didnt like me


i mean if she didnt like me at all, she wouldnt have led me on, plus her and her mom are REALLY close, and her mom said she is just really really scared, should i move on forever, or just for now

Answer 1

I would back off before you lose her as a friend.

Answer 2

Unfortunately for you, you're going to have to move on which is SO MUCH easier said than done. I'm about twice your age and STILL hate situations like this (this will happen throughout your life). She definitely does not want a relationship with you, it's not you personally that she is rejecting, it's the relationship. She may be scared but that's a moot point.

Being friends is great for her, but it most likely won't work for you. You're going to CONSTANTLY be wishing you were holding her hand, caressing her neck, stroking her hair while she could be blathering about school work, oblivious to the chasm you feel in your heart.

I would (again this is so much easier to write) take a step back for a couple of weeks, try to disassociate yourself from her as best as you can and remember how you're feeling right now when a girl enters your life who wants to date you but you do not want the same. Her e-mail was very mature and gentle, you should respect her wishes and move on.

Answer 3

I think she is scared, but there may be a reason for her to be like this

"first of all, I don't hate you..."
tends to imply that the e-mail which she was replying to may be considered to be of the "psycho" brand along the lines of "What have I done wrong? Why do you hate me?"

The comments of "Its not just swimming that I have been busy with" implies a couple of things.
1) there may be a little bit of stalking going on here
2) She may have a boyfriend already

The final thing is that when tlaking to her mother about this have you considered that mother and daughter will probably talk to each other about you and what you have said to them?

I'd probably give this girl a miss and go out with somebody else. Should she really like you then I'm sure she'll show it in time.

Answer 4

Hey...
Appreciate the friendship you have with her! You are young and when you say "she's the world to you", I think you have alot of exploring to do!

Follow me here... A newborn baby would love to get up and run, but can't! They need to first learn to crawl, then wobble, then walk and then..... run!

Be your own person, and do things you want to do! If you run into a situation about attempting to force a relationship, which might only be a friendship, you're wasting precious energy! She, or any girl, is going to find you attractive and more than just a friend, if you are your natural self! Girls/Women have "intuition"!

When you get a little older, please read the book "Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus."

Good luck there partner!

Answer 5

part of growing up involves hurt!!
when your young all you think is why!! why!!
what if i? what if she? what if.....what if???

when you get older you will see.....sometimes there is no reason. its just because!!
nothing you did or said.
teens minds change like the weather. just ask your parents.
i'm almost 40 now and i still remember the girl in the front row of 7th grade who kissed me at the locker..........and never spoke to me in a nice way again.....
i run across her twenty years later.......and she was the one who ask me if i remembered!!
i ask her why.......she said she had thought of that her whole life and still didn't have a answer.
we laughed and went our seperate ways.....
live and learn......sometimes there is no answer.....
another will come along and do it again....or who knows...............really like you!!!
hang in there.......

Answer 6

dude look most of the time like 99% of the time if you are good friends and you try to go out it doenst work
but look if you realy do have feelings for her then go for it
ask her how she feels about you and tell her how you feel about her
good luck

Answer 7

Are you not young for all this? I would say you are young, a lot of interesting woman would come your way in time and you will be glad this other one reacted this way. Goodluck.

Answer 8

MEN.. i think she also likes you... do the old fashion way..... be close to her mom... get more information.. tell her mom that you like her daughter.. i think she can help you.... just go with the flow men..

Answer 9

Forever is looooooong time when you're 15 dude.

Answer 10

sorry guy, girls lead guys on even if they dont like them.... so this is obvousily what she has done... forget her and try dating a 14 year old there a little more mature.