in a day he cries an average 20 times he screams for everything instaed of just asking.is that normal
2006-08-30 00:41:58 · 34 answers · asked by hieandbye 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He may be trying to tell you something.. I would think something is bothering him, or causing him pain. Have you taken him to see his pediatrician? Poor little guy : (
2006-08-30 00:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Serious Mandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not normal.
First thing you have to distinguish is, have you also jumped up and gotten him what he wants for the last three years?
If so, now when he cries, you need to make him learn to wait(obviously not if it is important) if it is something he should be able to do for himself then teach him how to. When he screams for something, remain calm, and tell him he needs to ask nicely if he wants it, or he will have to go without.
This will be stressful for you when he throws tantrums while he is learning, but if you stick it out over time, he will soon learn a new behaviour. Patience and persistance are the key. You need to remain consistent if you want this to work.
If all else fails, see an early childhood nurse in case there is another problem.
2006-08-30 00:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're getting some good answers here (and some really annoying ones). The only thing that I would add is that if this is a recent behavior check out his sleep. Is he sleeping well?
My son is 3 also and when he starts crying overly much and screaming rather than asking often he needs more sleep. Allowing him a bit more nap or making sure that he gets to bed on time improves his behavior a lot.
Remember that when kids are overtired, believe it or not, they tend to have MORE energy. Their bodies go into a sort-of survival mode (like soldiers) that tells them to keep going even though they are tired.
2006-08-30 05:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by warehaus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 times a day is to much for a 3 year old, so ask your self the following:
1) Is he hungry?
2) wet his dipers?
3) Comfy clothes?
4) Clean air and surrounding?
5) Have toys and comfy bed?
6) do you spend a good time with him or just leave him there?
Advice:
1) Check docter and ask for a complete check up for your child and ask for vacination and all
2) give your child the most attention he wants but dont hit him at this age because you need to build a love bond between both of you because if u hit him at this age this might effect him in the future that doesnt meen to give him all he wants but be moderate.
2006-08-30 00:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by Techno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three year olds have a really hard time controlling their emotions and they tend to over-react to everything. He is also attempting to have independence but is frustrated by his inability to control is own environment. You can take him to a doctor to make sure that there's nothing really wrong with him. You should work on not reacting to screaming, whining and tantrums. Simply tell him in a sweet, gentle voice that if he would like something then he will have to ask for it nicely because you're not going to respond to screaming, whining or tantrums. Figure out what works for you and make it your mantra until he grows out of this stage.
There are a variety of child development books out there that may have some good suggestions for dealing with the terrible threes. Remember to keep calm and don't react to his screaming.
2006-08-30 00:56:37 · answer #5 · answered by Susan G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is normal! Are you giving him attention every time he cries? Unless he's hurt himself or he's ill, try ignoring him until he stops. Tell him you can't tell what he's saying when he cries like a baby.
As for the screaming for things, I would ignore that too. Make him ask nicely - it's only manners after all. You aren't doing him any favours by giving in, believe me. He'll soon get the message. You could try star charts too. Three year olds love them.
2006-08-30 00:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by R.I.P. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like he may be a little spoiled. Time for some hard work on your part he is now big enough for you to turn this around.If he wants something make him ask for it instead of scream for it or dont give it to him. Tough I know but. I have three kids all very spoiled but I have always said two' s were easy it was the three's that were terible. He will out grow it !Good LUck
2006-08-30 00:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had his hearing checked? Were you one of those moms who thought picking baby up all the time was a bad thing?
Get his hearing checked.
Don't give him what he's screaming for and tell him he can't have it/ won't get it, until he gets a grip. Give him a minute to calm down and if he doesn't, put him in his room.
Talk to him as much as possible and ask him questions so he can talk back to you. That will improve his communication skills.
2006-08-30 01:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's found a way to get what he wants. He knows the screaming gets to you, and gets him what he wants. He's old enough to be told that screaming for a drink will not get him one and to be told to ask nicely. If you scream this at him, it is not as effective as speaking to him calmly. When he is screaming for something, ask him "is this how to ask mom for....?" Talk to him when he's calm about how you want him to ask for things. Be sure to aknowledge when he does it right. It will take some working with him, but you'll both be happier in the long run. The sooner you start, the easier it will be to get under control as well.
2006-08-30 00:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by Pauleen M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how you respond when he cries. My daughter started tantrum throughing when she was around 3. they are testing the boundaries. Try ingnoring him do not resond to his outburst do not yell back. This is what my husband and I did and he tantrums stopped immediatly and she never did it again. She acually threw herself down on the floor once in a supermarket and we said oh well we are going to ge pick out dinner we will be back when you are done. When we started to walk away she jumped up and followed us. They want to see how much they can get away with. Don't let them get away with it now or they will never stop.
2006-08-30 00:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by rye252000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he starts screaming and crying for something, as much as it pees you off , you need to be calm and sit down... If you know that he is screaming for a snack or drink then you ask him "do you want some drink" if he continues to act up you leave and tell him when he can stop crying you will get it for him
2006-08-30 00:46:58 · answer #11 · answered by stuffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋