Is ur family sooo judgmental?

Question

Like ur aunts and uncles..mine are the worst...they make me sooo self conscious? what can I do?

Answer 1

Live your life following yr heart and believes.. noone can know what is better for u....
Hear suggestions, ideas, opinions.. but live for your self and no to satisfy others' desires...

Answer 2

You can choose your friends, but not your family... Being judgemental is part of the great "Family Job Description" - it's right along there with embarrassing you in public... I moved 3 continents away from mine... 'nuf said...

Answer 3

You get hurt only when you allow others to hurt you, so the fact that you enter the room already feeling fearful of their disapproval shows that you are already surrendering your power and self esteem to them even before meeting them.
And that you still give other’s opinions more value than your own. So, my question is, why is others approval so important to you, aren’t you approving yourself and your choices enough? What is it in you that you don’t approve of?
Where you born to a set of critical parents and family? So it is time you start working on getting on your power back, start observing how you get rattled each time some one disapproves of you. So stop this cycle, by beginning to approve and accept yourself just the way you are, because the longer you keep basing your self esteem on others approval, the more tough will it be stand on your own and get to the center of your self esteem – Self Respect.

Try something small, next time you feel judged, say that is their personal opinion and it need not be true, as it need not be in the first, and so question them instead of questioning yourself.

Later, you can reply as you think is befitting, but nothing disarms judgmental people as humour, as you are turning around their jabs on their head sand giving it back to them!
Truly speaking judgmental people are really people with low self esteem that they are trying to build up by making others feel small, especially where the chances of a rebuttal are a minimum.

So don’t encourage them, stand up for your self respect that is your duty towards yourself on every single occasion, otherwise they would get used to playing around with you to build their self esteem, sometimes people like the idea that they can make fun of others or put them down jovially, so that others cannot get worked up on something so trivial, but really what they are doing in energy terms is grabbing at your energy, as by the end of it all, they end up feeling good while you feel drained, bitter, angry or sometimes raging inside.
You might be smiling on the outside as that would be the nice thing to do, but the sooner you make them feel that you are not liking it, the better. As they will back off as they respect and love you.
Any how, you have to learn to stay by your side on such occasions and not get backed down by such people, know if smile while you feeling hurt within you really are abandoning your side, and that can be very damaging for self esteem, as no one is worthy of being ridiculed or humiliated no matter what the occasion. Also start taking things a bit lightly as that you keep you light and soon you would be able to laugh it all off, and even their judgments, and that is one sure way to end this cycle.

Another thing, stop taking their arguments to be hallmarks of truth, soon they will back out on you, or instead to always answering their questions, question them. Nothing else will startle them than that! Soon, when you will stop getting rattled by their opinions and they will start respecting you as a grown up.

But all this will start when you start respecting yourself and approving of yourself. In short, end the approval seeking cycle by starting to approve yourself first.

Answer 4

Don't let them get to you. The truth be told, they have skeletons in their closets that they don't want anyone finding out about.

Answer 5

EVERYONE who is human is jugmental. Everytime you made a decision, it is a judgment call.

Answer 6

pretend they don't exist then write a book blasting them

Answer 7

mine r not JUDGMENTAL but they r MENTAL(top floor missing)