Recently I have found myself having feelings for one of my friends boyfriend and I talk to him alot and we get on really weel together...I really like him but I dont know what to do about my friend....please help me what will i do???????
2006-08-30 00:04:36 · 33 answers · asked by poppy! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A moral and ethical minefield.
Do you confess that which you feel and risk rejection and the chance you will be ex communicated from your friend? Or do you take the same risk and live happily ever after, knowing that another girl may do the same thing and leave you high and dry?
The first answer would be to move on, accept that your friend is happy and if you see an opportunity- wait for the right time and move in.
However if you truely value and respect him as a friend (if you love him)- let him go. Let him live his own life and be happy.
As for your own happiness- that is yours. In time you will find someone else and they will find you. Thus making this discussion moot.
However if you really can't help it- you must do what your heart tells you to do. Just be prepared for the fall-out.
The Iceman.
2006-08-30 00:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by The Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone Honey, you will lose your friend big style if you do anything about this. If he is not settled with your friend then the relationship will end....then and only then will you be okay to do anything BUT leave it a respectable time i.e.6 mths before you have any relationship type contact with him, then your friend will most likely be with someone Else and won't bother about you and him being together...just give it time
2006-08-30 00:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay off since you will hurt your friend. There is no dearth of bfs. You will find dime a dozen.Human mind is very peculiar. You choose your bf and move on. With in a short period you will forget all about your old acquaintance and regard the current one as the best in the world! (only till you find the next)
2006-08-30 00:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do nothing.
It is your friends boyfriend and if they are together then you have no right to come between that.
If anything will happen between you it would have to be instigated by him and it would have to be AFTER he has split with her. Beware that even if they do split it would be in fairly poor taste to 'jump on him' the moment they are apart.
If you are a good friend you will stay friends with them both and wish them happiness .. sometimes friendships demand sacrifice.
2006-08-30 00:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of how strong you feel, over such a short period of time, its probably infatuation. On a moral point of view, certain don't try anything on, because for how much pleasure it may give you, it would be very bitter for your friend.
Plenty more fish in the sea etc etc.
2006-08-30 00:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Chris O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move forward in looking for someone else. He is not available to you nor will he be. In addition do you really want to hurt your friend? That is the ultimate betrayal.
Hugs Mel (Loving Memory to Our Angel, Our Son Zachary)
Don't judge my comment to the dedication of my son like this idiot -> http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoZzyqw61dXPF1.ZDFJbEsDsy6IX?qid=20060829033342AAIaG9w
2006-08-30 00:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your friend, you do nothing. If you try to approach him with your feelings and he doesnt reciprocate your feelings are going to be hurt and if he feels insulted that you approached him knowing he dates your girlfriend, he may tell her and you will lose your friend also. Besides all of this, put yourself in your friend's place...how would you feel if she liked your boyfriend?
2006-08-30 00:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by philly_q_t_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friends boyfriend past or present is OFF LIMITS. It's just not right...your girlfriends will always be there...boys come and go
2006-08-30 00:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by shelshe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are for life...dont ruin a good friendship for something that probably wouldnt work out.....find someone new to talk too or get yourself your own bloke!
2006-08-30 00:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends are much more important...you should never entertain it. What would you do if the situation was reversed??? Yea...you wouldn't be happy. Give your girlfriend the respect & leave her man alone.
2006-08-30 00:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Irish... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋