2006-08-29 23:41:38 · 30 answers · asked by Sucheta C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I am a shy person and I have a hard time opening up to my family and friends. Because of this, they do keep me at a distance. They do this not to be mean, but because they think that is what I want. If you do not allow people to become close then it is unreasonable to blame them for not being distant.
2006-08-29 23:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Mojo Risin 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. Why are introverted, shy people not taking responsibility for their actions. You'll never learn to swim if you don't jump into the pool.
2. Most people are busy living their lives, and cannot, will not, live another person's life for them. You cannot walk another person through life. People tire of being around takers who have nothing to contribute — cannot reciprocate.
3. The introverted, shy person may need to see their physician for a referral to a medical expert who can help them with their problem. If someone is stuck emotionally at the first day of kindergarten, then they need help. Might be chemical imbalance. There is some reason that they are unable to reciprocate or initiate conversations or activities.
4. Encourage them to see their physician & be honest about their problem.
2006-09-04 20:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the introverts are so quiet, that others don't feel engaged with them, or consider them stand-offish? I once knew a woman at work that we thought very stuck up, and prudish. After getting stuck with her on a committee, I found she had a wonderful sense of humor, but was very shy. We had put a distance between us, but then so had she by not ever trying to close it. This is SO unfortunate, as both parties miss out on good times.
2006-09-06 03:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by herewittykitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, I'M AN INTROVERT. Whew, that feels better. Now let me explain to you how we introverts work.
At a party, everyone is socializing. Everyone is talking, flirting, dancing except one guy in the back. He's in a corner, staring. Quietly as if not to get attention. That is an introvert. I believe that the majority of us DO NOT LIKE ATTENTION. I hate having to do presentations at work or talking to large groups of people. I do not like LARGE family reunions because there are so many people who I don't like to talk to. Introverts prefer being by themselves. I read in psychology that extroverts are charged with energy by being around others, and introverts have their energy drained by being around others. I'm not saying that I don't like people, we just don't like large groups and we are usually more quiet and observant. But we are still friendly and peaceful and will help you if you need it. If you have any more questions, please contact me at the edress below.
jakegondidude@yahoo.com
2006-09-03 08:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by jakegondidude 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once heard that introverts are selfish, because they don't want to be proven wrong they keep everything in their heart.
Most of the time though they can turn out to be pleasant and entertaining, i think the hardest bit for them is to make the first move. Once you give them a bit of importance they come out.
2006-09-06 07:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rosita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not that they are kept at arms length or neglected. it is they who want to be that way. my husband is an introvert. how much ever we try to bring him to our family gathering, he hardly spends few minutes with us & then goes away. or sits with us without a word just giving us bored looks.so, i feel that he may not like being with us. so, we leave him alone.it is the introverts who have to change.
2006-09-06 09:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't seem to be contributing to a friendship. Every relationship is about give and take and engaging the other person in conversation or activities, so if the shy person doesn't do engage the other person, then it seems the other person is doing all the work and won't continue to do that.
2006-09-06 21:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by kukkeeme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mojo's answer. They also may not know what things interest this introvert or in the same token what things offend them so they don't want to take a chance on offending them and don't know they it's something they may be interested in either.
2006-08-30 06:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introverts keep to themselves and other people may not really know what is on their mind. This inability of not being able to tell, on first meeting, tends to make people keep away from them.
2006-09-06 11:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by abinyoho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people who are shy are keeping THEMSELVES at arms length from other people. They must muster up the courage and learn to socialize more for their own sake. The only thing that is keeping them from socializing with others, is their own fear and lack of confidence.
2006-08-30 06:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋