How do I become my self again?

Question

How do I become my self again? I am 20 years old now and I never had good luck with women. I had only 2 girlfriends one at age 16 and other 18,I was going out with them mabe for a month before it ended. So I started looking for something to help me in that area. I read this book how to improve your dating,its all about comletely changing you personality,be some one also;fake. So I started using it and yes I did get more attention froms girls but in the end of the day I felt bad and miserable because that just wasn't me I felt sick to the stomack.I started always watching my behavior if I do everything as in says in the book. One day I decided I just wanted to be my self to be happy again. But I acted like some one also for so long, I dont know who I am anymore. How should I act and do things.How I was before.I am always thinking am I being my self now or is it something learned. How do I get back to being my self.How can I erase all that programming from what I read and how I acted?

Answer 1

to be yourself means to act as you feel

so first thing stop feeling so sick about yourself always have a positive way of thinking about yourself ,see it in this way as you learnt a good thing that acting somebody else makes you really feel bad

next react as normally you would spontaneously would react and never think back that that this was a made up reaction

be confident about yourself and be happy what you are this will prevent you from looking further into books on how to be yourself

be happy and enjoy life that's all

Answer 2

Everyone goes through changes because we are always learning as we go about the tasks of everyday living . I'm not the same person I used to be either . I like to think that I can use the most positive things that I am learning to mold myself throughout my life time . Trying new things is merly a learning process . Since you are concerned I think you are on the right track . You will attract women who see a genuine guy in the long run ,because you are so concerned about that and that is good . I know that most of us want a quick fix for everything most of the time but there is a lot to be said for patients . Good luck Hope this helps !

Answer 3

dood i'm 22 and i have got finally a gf .....i didn't rush cuz i never really liked to be attached to some1else but she's worthed and the ***** got me what can i say ..

Now u say all this crap ...and i can assume u just want to get any female u like through gettin her attention with some stupid method u read in a book...gimme a freaking break u don't need to do that cuz that will lead to get the wrong girl....just use ur damn common sense kid ...just get ur balls reattached and start working on something u like for a hobby such as walkin, gym, play an instrument, go to church i don't care whatever u like and a girl will get attracted to that ...to what u like what u do cuz it's u not someone elses life ...it's what u r and she will accept who u r why u like that ...so stop cryin' and posting stupid sh.it on mental health

Answer 4

Think about how you were before you changed yourself. Write it down in a journal or note book. Write as much as you can remember about who you once were. Now use it as you did the book to change yourself in the first place. Reprogram yourself to be yourself as you did when you changed yourself lol I hope that makes sense to you :) good luck.

Answer 5

I sad with your luck but i will help you.It's not hard to become yourself again because you if praying everday to God i believe you will success.

Answer 6

get your birth certificate,get paper and pen copy it 500 times while looking at a mirror bring it in to me by next monday

Answer 7

just be yourself. The right girl is out there for you and she will love you just the way you are.

Answer 8

Get off of any drugs you are on and reconnect with your family.

Answer 9

LOL, you are trying too hard. Who you are is who you are and it is everchanging. Just watch wht you want to watch, listen what you want to listen to, say what you want to say and do what you want to do.

Answer 10

By letting yourself be you without any excuses.