We started being in a relationship. After our first night together, he started to become very open with his vocab...I mean, he's talking in dirty languages, gives out sexual jokes, feels me anywhere...talking dirty in bed...
We were seeing each other for 2 months, and we only held hands and kissed...so this is a huge leap for me.
I like being close, but I'm not easy in listning to these languages. Would this mean he's feeling comfortable with me, or just being careless...? How do you think? Is this normal?
I'm 27 and had more than15 bf, but this was the first experiance for me with the language...
2006-08-29 23:01:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes he is comfortable with you and likes to express himself like that, probably turns him on. If your not comfortable with it tell him and ask him to cut back. Tell him that he can on occasion but that the constant dirty talk makes you uncomfortable, unless of course you can deal with it, then just smile and let it go.
2006-08-29 23:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you should do what you feel is compfortable for you, but why does everyone see sex as a "bad" thing? I have opened up to myself and of course with my husband (of 2 yrs-been together for a total of 8 ) who used to be sooo shy and now it's sexy and more acceptable than you think..sex is supposed to feel good and be a release of many emotions that you sometimes don't even know you have...I have't always felt this way until maybe 2 yrs ago but always been attracted to both sexes and loved the feeling of wanting the need to explore that side and want to just "let loose" and not necessarily be crazy wild and I just never have felt safe or the felt the trust in someone to do so until I met my husband who was the same and we now go to porn shops and buy toys and sexy things *not wierd things* and I was ALWAYS embarassed to even think of going in there but now it's so sexy to see the way it makes him look at me and others sorta "envious" looks and im speaking from experience, it's been soo great for me personally to be able to just let myself have fun and also allow myself to truly fall in that part of love because if you don't have unselfish trustworthy intimacy, you don't have a whole relationship...it all goes together and won't work without one or the other...phew, did that help you a bit w/o sounding like a Dr. Phil?? LOL *who I like, sometimes* good luck, ok? remember, sex is not bad, and it shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable....ever...take care of you.....*Angela*
2006-08-29 23:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lippy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a guy who's stopped trying to impress you so much, and is acting more like his 'normal' self - which apparently involves a lot of dirty talk and sexual thought. It's 'normal' enough, I suppose - as in, it's not /abnormal/ - some people have this sort of personality, some don't. If you're not comfortable with this, try talking to him about it, but... honestly? I wouldn't expect it to change him. Kinda sounds like an *** to me.
2006-08-29 23:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Katia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see this situation as normal. The guy is comfortable with you! But if you do not like his way of talking, then you can firmly tell him so, and if he does not change his habit, and you still do not get over it, then it would be time to move on. But talk to him first as communication is the right key for every relationship to work.
2006-08-29 23:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 14:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by bremmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No reason to talk dirty. Does not speak well. Better keep off for some time unless you want to get real close. It appears he wants to have sex with you and is not happy only holding hands or kissing.
2006-08-29 23:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i for once would never be comfortable with a guy like that. it would reflect his personality at the same time shows how he treats women. talking dirty, especially to a girl you just met is foul for me. but nobody's perfect, everyone has his own flaws, if you think he is worth keeping, then talk to him and tell him what you feel. he might even learn something from you.. so he would be careful dealing with girls next time.
2006-08-29 23:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by jules1225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just being too comfortable with you. You can tell him that you do not like those dirty languages and see if he stops or not. If not...
2006-08-29 23:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by space 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like he is getting to be a little too comfortable with you but yes this means he is comfortable. I would suggest telling him how you feel when he says/does these things. Good luck.
2006-08-29 23:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If youve had 15 boyfriends I'd be more worried about you if I was him...
If he's a good shag, just lie back and think of England , baby.
And wear some industrial earplugs..
2006-08-29 23:05:42 · answer #10 · answered by satnee2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋