cold relationship...?

Question

me n my bf have a calm realtionship n we undstd eachother very well......sooo well.....so well that we argue no more, i suck all his negative side n so does he n everything goes so smooth n i dont know why now i just feel like bro n sis or close friends sumthing like tht....
i have no more passion towrds him. im afraid to break up (why wud we? things are so smooth) n he is already undstd me sooo well....(then? why break up?)

i dont know wat to say more, any suggestion?
were 3.5 years couple.
n still afraid to lose him

Answer 1

Both of you are so lucky that you understand each other so well.
Learn some new hobbies together go outdoors to add some change & fun in life, if thats what you are looking for.

Answer 2

I'm sorry but not having any argues in a relationship isn't a good sign. A true relationship must have that kind of disagreements, and if they are solved then this two people can live together. But if your relationship is as you say then there's no way you can keep on with it. Things are smooth only between good or old friends not between a couple. You are acting negligent towards this situation, you lost the pasion and maybe even love for each other, you should break up and find pasion in someone else.

Answer 3

I hear so many similar problems from a couples like you.
Too long together, getting bored.
I think there are only 1 choice now, if you are in a right age.
Have the guts to say "Since we know everything of each other, I think we should get married, or if you don't want that, just be the best friends of our lives, and be separated."
I think he's thinking something similar too. Being in a relationship which is 3.5 years...that's too long for you to boost in to marriage if you don't talk, and if you don't want that, you should keep him as your best friend.

Answer 4

now now.... i've been answering that same question for my friend too... what do you think is the best thing to do?


if i were in your case, i wouldn't break up. because i respect my name and besides it's the right thing for me.

for you, better break up. it's now or never. you will not lose him, you can be best friends. say it calmly to him that it seems like you lost your love already or the sort. tell him your feelings.

second case, if you love him but you stopped having the excitement with him, then don't breakup. i believe every couple undergoes the same stuff: when they get bored with one another but yet the love is still there.enjoy his company and try making things up with his help.

lastly, talk with one another. the only ones who can completely solve your problem are yourselves. do it, because you're the ones who know the real situation.

Answer 5

I understand Im in a relationship very much like yours and Im starting to CRAVE passion, but remember passion usually leads to a broken heart...

Answer 6

Get a new hobbie together. It will add a new conversation that you can talk about to each other and doing stuff with your partner may rekindle that love thats lost.

Maybe dancing?

Answer 7

oh my god.. i have never heard something like that... so this is juz my personal advice... i feel that this relationship is cool.. would u rather wane a relationship that quarrels whole day long? no.. i would be rather happy being in ur shoes ya know? where my bf understands me... give in to me..... it is way better.. trust me, gal....

Answer 8

go on but in difference way

Answer 9

Come today night to my flat I will teach whole night and it will be okay....

Answer 10

You are great