The woman i have seen for about four months and says she wants to marry me, recently told me she still can't trust me. i'm in anouther country and she thinks it is too easy for me to cheat, no matter what tell her to reassure her she still won't try to trust me. any advice on what to say or do?
2006-08-29 21:54:52 · 9 answers · asked by sproket 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask her to hire a private detective to secretly follow you around and report back to her
2006-08-29 21:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by Signilda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might never get an answer to that question, only tips/advice which might help you. Long distance relationships are always a problem, because of all the stigma surrounding that sort of relationships. Sounds like she doesn't believe that you love her enough for her to trust you to be faithfull to her. If that's the case then it doesn't matter if you live in the same house, she still won't trust you. Maybe she got hurt in the past and now she doesn't trust any man. Or maybe the problem lies with her, who knows. Just talk about the whole situation. I know it sounds lame, but being a woman, well, we sometimes just need to talk.
2006-08-29 22:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you like the lady.. she is the wrong one. If you are truely faithful and she can not trust you, she has issues with it and always will. Be careful as people with these kind of trust issues, sometimes are not trustworthy themselves.
Its cool if you are willing to put up with it but don't get married. Be lovers and friends but marriage has to have trust to work. If you don't have a wife who trusts you, then you will always have to deal with her questioning you and after a few years of this, life can become very painful when you are doing nothing wrong. Being constantly accused is an awful thing to deal with and no amount of telling her will convince her.
Although, in saying all of this, you haven't been seeing each other long so perhaps she just needs to hear you say that you love her alone and reassure her that you are not interested in another. If it continues after proving that you are faithful, get out, or be prepared to continuously be told that you are lying. In the end it becomes too much. Its like being called a liar every time you speak the truth. That's plain abuse because of their insecurities. If she doesn't get over it, get out.
2006-08-29 22:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well having only known her for four months its a bit silly her saying she wants to get married especially if she does not trust you if there is no trust there is no point you need to try and get her to trust you which is hard when you dont stay in the same country as one another you should invite her through and let her meet your mates and once she has saw who you are hanging about with she might be able to trust you a wee bit more but dont forget to be affectionate towards her in front of your friends and show her a wee bit of romance
2006-08-29 22:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sincerly speaking its hard for the woman to trust you and the fact that you are not closer to her makes the situation worse but the best thing ican advice you to do is tell her to take her time until she gain that confidence to trust you and you can go ahead and marry her! tell her this and watch what happens and tell me! i have experience this personally and let me know what she says!
2006-08-29 22:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by babyblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to marry U, she darn well better feel that she can trust U! It does not sound goood!
2006-08-29 22:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by froggie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication should always be there
assure her that wherever u are, you will always stay honest.
call her time to time and express your love
update her all your doings over there.
women, are sensitive especially if their love
one's are away from them so its normal, don't worry.
2006-08-29 22:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by Amani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in with her...she'll trust ya then!
2006-08-29 21:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wasting your time. overseas realationships dont work.
2006-08-29 22:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by lesuiremike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋