Im not sure what to do?

Question

I was seeing a guy for a few months when he had to go abroad to work on the oil rigs for 6 months. He is not back until jan and said i should date other guys and we could start again when he returns, but i feel really guilty if i do this its almost like cheating even tho we are not together at the moment. Any suggestions as im totally confused at the moment.

I know he wont be cheating on me as he is stuck on an oil rig in nigeria, we still keep in contact via email

Answer 1

yu have lovely opinions abt relationships..kudos to yu... i wish i have a girlfrnd like yu

Answer 2

Any time a man tells you, "You should date other guys.", he's either trying to test you, or let you down easy. If working oil rigs is what he does, there are going to be plenty of time during your relationshiip when he'll be gone for months. He might be trying to figure out if you're inclined to see other people while he's gone. It could also be him just hoping you'll hook up with someone else so he won't have to deal with you when he gets back. In the end the choice is yours. Wait and find out which one it is, knowing he may come back and dump you, or try to find someone who'll let you know exactly where you stand and what he expects without the 'wait and see' game playing.

Answer 3

What makes you think he would not cheat on you, i mean what a thing to say before he goes, that you should date other guys, why did you not ask him 'what do you mean by that', that is wierd, if that was me i would think either he is up to no good/can't care enough for me, or maybe he has said what he has said because he thinks that when he is not around you will be cheating on him, and so he will be prepared, it also could be that it is not fare on you waiting for him all these months that you would be feeling lonely, if you are emailing each other why don't you ask him, you should ask him because he will be able to provide answers for you, it also could be that he is insecure, if you don't want to see other guys then tell him, that you are willing to wait for him, because remember you have only been with your guy for a couple of months. Good luck

Answer 4

He willn't be on the oil rig for all of the 6 months... A guy would good crazy... He sounds like a good man so what he is saying he that in 6 months he might not want to be with you 6 months away is a long time...

Answer 5

Your in a open relationship pretty much you can date whoever you want but when he gets back your supposed to drop everything for him which is wrong. It probably also means that while he's a way he will be doing his thing with other females and doesn't want to technically cheat on you so he decided to let each of you date other people, which is wrong. If he really cared he would just stay with you 6 months is nothing compared to what couples go thru in the military. Honestly, I would just go with the flow and look for someone else that really cares. If you don't find anyone while he's gone then continue with 6month guy but leave your options open! I don't think 6month is guy is really going to be worth anything for you anyways! Good luck!!

Answer 6

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I would suggest you go with how you feel on this one, if it feels
really uncomfortable with seeing someone else whilst this guy
is away, dont, six months is not really a long time, though I appreciate that you miss him, someone above suggests that
he is giving you the brush off, again I would suggest you wait
and see, if he is keen in his emails and on his return then you may feel a lot more comfortable if you have not been seeing others during the intervening time.

Hope it works out for you.

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Answer 7

i thing you should go with your gut instinct if you do not feel ready to see other men then dont be forced in to it he might be missing you 2 i would not put my life on hold still enjoy yourself but if he has told you to see other men than no doubt he will be seeing other women 2 but that does not mean that he is not thinking about you but if he comes in jan at least you can say you have enjoyed yourself and that you havent been with anyone else and if he breaks it off at least you will have a clear concience

Answer 8

HI Eileen, This sounds a little fishy to me.Why would he say,and we can start over again.I don't understand why he would say something like that to you.It sounds to me he is going to be having sex, and fun with some other girls.I think you know, what you are going to do.Sweety, listen to your heart it will never lie to you.Other wise, why do you write your question!

Clowmy

Answer 9

why u people like to complicate everything with ur own frustrations ...darling to love is to love and if u r in love with someone u give that person freedom and respect that means u have to accept anything from that person even if once in a while they want to have sex with somebody else because thats only sex....and we cant shag the same person forever and who says so they lie...or they **** with playboys on the toilet...they r frustrated...to have sex with someone is not a tabu but people likes to make it like that because their affraid of their frustrations i love my girlfriend and she loves me and we have always wish for it and when we r on holidays then ,,,,,live ur life and follow ur heart and wish just think about how many good shags have u lost?

Answer 10

do you wear a ring have you signed a marriage licence? If the answer is not then go find some other guy this is the legal side. But your heart will tell you the opposite we on here can't tell you what to do its your call sorry

Answer 11

ohh c mon its reallly silly 2 date a guy upto a given time period! ya u'll b cheatin him.dere's no doubt tht ppl do all dis freakoo stuff but b true 2 urself
thts it!