Information on Families (a question for Muslims)?

Question

In college I knew some Muslim students. We were studying very hard, so we did not have much time to talk, but what I did understand was that family is very important to them and that as children Muslims are treated very well. Not that they are not always treated well, but one student told me that his parents were really good to him and that this is very common. As to wifes I am getting conflicting messages on one hand I hear of domestic violence and one another had I hear women are regraded very well. In regular life I have seen domestic violence in all cultures. What is the tradional view on family life acording to the Muslim religion. I grew up Catholic and the impression I got was that mothers play a very important role in a family and are very special. I know this may be a more Americanize in modern times because things have been so different in the church in the past and in America.

Can you educate me on families and spouse relationships in the Muslim world?

I am trying to ask this question repectfully because the media portrays so many myths and I think this may be yet another based on what people say.

There seems to be a great deal of love in Muslim families.

Thanks for the answer on that. That is so interesting. Some religions are female dominat as well as cultures. That is interesting. I am beginning to think all of this is scare tactics. I have seen domestic violence result in all cultures not just Muslim. It is human not a religious issue. Perhaps this is more confustion from the govt of the us where I live. I have seen the most domestic violence happen in the Caucasian Race. I do not know stats, but that is what I see. I also see the lack of family structure in that race too. That is the race that I am a part of.

Thank you for all your beautiful answers. You all have such great ways of expressing yourselves and write so beautifully. It is so refreshing not because I do not expect it from Muslims, but because I do not read such nice words on Yahoo Answers. Thanks for soothing my tired eyes by writing so nicely. I am sorry about my grammar, typos and spelling.

I will really be hard to choose best answer and I do not want to put it up for a vote due to the fact that there is an intollerant one in here. There are so many best answers. I wish I could just thow off 10 pts to everyone except the intollerant one.

Oppps they all look good that was another question.

Answer 1

In muslim, the spouse is in a very special position. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) in one of his "hadith" says " Eve was created from the ribs of Adam; for her to be loved, guided and walked side by side with man, not created from the feet to be stamped or from the head to be put at height". Clearly, the relationship of spouse in Muslim is one that the woman can count on when she has a husband. For mothers, the prophet was asked by one of his followers "Who in the world that I should respect most?" The prophet said "Your mother".The follower asked "next?" The prophet said "Your mother". The follower asked again "next?" The prophet said "Your mother". So, to wives, mothers and women generally, your position in Muslim is very special!

Answer 2

I think the main problem with non-muslim thinking is that they define Islam by the muslim people they meet. In Islam like any other religion there are people who are born Muslims but don't practice it and there are others who do. So, first please differenciate between the two. I mentioned this point because if you do meet a Muslim who beats his wife than you should know that he is not a true Muslim. A woman in Islam isn't supressed at all, she has rights in all aspects in life, she is well respected and plays an important role in uniting a family and raising children according to the Islamic religion. This does not mean that her tasks are restricted to that, she can work outdoors if she chooses to do so. Honestly, when I think of it a Muslim woman can live like a queen if she were to marry a true Muslim. I think if you read about women's rights in Islam you will benifit a lot.

Check out this site

http://www.islamic.org.uk/womright.html

Answer 3

i have a muslim boyfriend, and i am being treated better than a queen. and we have been together for two and a half years.

his mum is being treated even better by his dad. all his siblings and himself love and respect their parents. all of his slibling and himself are so close to one another. they can hang out together and go out toghether as a group, with their wife, fiance, girlfriend and everybody get along. of course there are occasional quarrel now and then, but thats pretty normal for every family.

and his family and relatives will always help out at each other's special occasions like weddings, birthdays. they are so close knitted that even neighbours help out at wedding and such. they bring food to each other's house whenever they cook something nice and want to share with their neighbours or relatives.

i found out that the malay committee are very warm towards each other and they are close knitted committee.

Answer 4

In the Q'uran, women have more power than men and are generally listened to and respected. That is the true word of Islam. The religion itself is getting such a bad name due to the mis-interpretations and die-hard-isms of people now, which is now prevalent to any subject matter.

Answer 5

You don't suck. Thanks for trying to understand and for not accepting the stereotypes. Open people are cool. People are people....regardless of which religion, those who truly love and bless others including their family members....are children of God. All religions have people who do good things and people who do bad things. Both say they are adherents of their faith but since God is love ....those that love and keep their faith in positive actions...truly know God. Those who hate and hurt others only THINK they know God. In every race and religion there are happy families and families that tear down and are violent. At home is where we see real behaviour that shows how much we have learned from God or not learned. People who lump all people into categories or refuse to be open to seeing people as the same as them are blind and need help. If they refuse help then they suck!

Answer 6

i grew up as a Muslim. up till this very day, i've yet to witness my dad scolding or saying harsh words to my mom. they never quarrel in front of us children (n i have nine other siblings). my dad used to be strict with us when we were small though. unlike my other friends who can go to sleepovers and such, my parents needed me to be home by 7pm. but i have to be grateful for that as it helped me discipline myself and being content in whatever little things i have.

now that i'm older (i'm 19 btw), my parents trust me and give me the freedom to spend my time however i wish to, which i try my best to put to good use so as not to abuse that trust they have in me. as Muslims, we believe that Allah is always there watching our every action.
no more curfews. eventhough they have 9 other children besides me, they never neglected their responsibilities as parents and shower me with ample attention, love and care.

and we children show our respect to our parents, who have went through all the hardship just to raise us up and see us become good & useful people.

yes, indeed there is so much love in my family :)

Answer 7

I always respected the Muslim women, they're better than all the other, except TRUE CHRISTAN ONES.The wear fine clothes, the head is always covered, i like that...it's better than alnmost naked on the street, in an airport, even in church. God loves us all, He sees what's in our hearts for that HE has to judge!

Answer 8

DO YOU THAT IN ISLAM, AS MAN IS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSE AND MAIN PROVIDER, HIS DUTY SUPPOSED TO INCLUDES;

1. COOKING
2. WASHING AND DRYING CLOTHES
3. TAKE CARE OF CHILDREN EDUCATION
4. CLEANING HOUSE

MAIN WOMAN JOB-GIVING BIRTH,SEX,( IF NO DIFFICULTY ARISES AS IN MENSES/SICKNESS ),RAISING CHILDREN.
AS IM A MUSLIM, AND IM UNABLE TO MOST OF ALL THAT, SO I ALLOWED MY WIFE TO WORK AND I FIND A MAID FOR HER. AS FOR SEX AND GIVING ME CHILDREN, NO PROBLEMO.

:)

FURTHERMORE, HER EARNING IS HERS, IM NOT ENTITLED UNLESS WITH HER PERMISSION.
AND MY EARNING IS HERS TO, EVEN WITHOUT MY PERMISSION.
THIS IS ACCORDING TO ISLAMIC RULES.

Answer 9

MV i love to give u thumbsup : )

Answer 10

please visit this site, it answers your question
http://www.cyberistan.org/islamic/islamintro.htm#family