I am a married person and last 6 months ago i met a pretty girl who is working in a high position since that day she is keeping touch with me and asking me to marry her I already told her that i am a married one and having a child but even she is not going out.
when i comparing her with my wife i feel she is really prettey what should i do now? I don't like to loose my wife and i don't like to be away from my child
2006-08-29 21:05:40 · 23 answers · asked by Niya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks for all the answerer specially those who advice me to be away from the new lady
2006-09-03 22:36:31 · update #1
Please reject her request if you really love your wife.
2006-08-29 21:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by HappyWyatt 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes indeed she may b very pretty and at a high position but just think wether u love ur wife and ur child and if u do than that love never let u go.just b'coz other female is pretty and at a high position don't leave ur wife and child as prettiness will go by age and position can b achieved at any point of time in life as well as it may go any time
Think the 1 which u have is the best and all problems will b solved and ask that other woman 2 be outta ur life
actually u shld not b having this question as ur already married and have a child and stop comparing ur wife and her as it will make situations worse
dear frnd its a peice of advice take it u'll b at HIGH RISK if u take a single step ahead
2006-08-30 04:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by mayu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you to stick with your current wife, because obviously you love your wife and want to be in the life of your soon to be new born baby. I would also advise you to steer clear of this lady who is asking you to marry her. Obviously this other girl wants you as her husband for a reason and the reason is not love. If you don't want to wind up doing the wrong thing, talk to your wife and consult her on what to do. Most likely your wife will tell you that you better nor marry that other girl and she would leave you if you cheated or something, but other than that just steer clear of that girl and you will have no problems. Eventually she will get over you and go on with her life so that is nothing to worry about and anyways, I am sure you know in your heart what you have to do. Good luck and thanks for asking my opinion on what you should do. Your heart will tell you what you feel you need to do. Don't ever doubt it even if your mind is telling you that this other lady is prettier than you wife, you wouldn't have gotten married to your wife if it wasn't the right thing in your heart to do. Don't waste love on some crazy psycho women who asked you to marry her when she like first met you.
2006-09-04 16:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by jigglet92 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you don't want to lose your family then don't do it.
Obviously its still something there between you and your wife or else you wouldn't have any doubts. From man to man the grass is not definitely always green on the other side. Hm mm! divorce court, child support payments, or pretty girl, you make the call.
See if the "pretty girl" will have you back if these problems come about. But remember just like we say anything sometimes to get in a woman's pants, they will say anything to get someone Else's man. Investigate,brainstorm, then see if its worth it chances are its usually not.
2006-08-30 04:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by freesoulwarrior 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why the sudden notion that your "pretty" friend wants you to marry her? You've special relationships with her? Please stop!
If you do not wish to lose your wife & your child, please flee from temptation this very minute. Flee from the temptress.
It's very tempting to be with a pretty girl. But please note that all you can say about her is that she's "pretty". Is that all? Beauty fades. I believe you've more to say about your wife. E.g. Understanding, Loving, Intelligent, Beautiful, Accomodating, Love you for who you are etc. etc.
Besides, have you seen your "pretty" friend without makeup & dressing up? So what if she's "pretty"? Is it a BIG deal? Just because she's "pretty", she can control everything, including you. Oh, please.
If she's in her right mind, why did she choose you over other eligible bachelors who are single & available? Why lead you into this mess? Because you're a good catch? Because she wants to prove she can "fish" married man / rich man / successful man / handsome man like you. And dump you anytime as she pleases. Think about it. She's "pretty". She can get loads of boyfriends anytime she wants.
I believe your wife is beautiful in her own way. If not, your wife would not have caught your eye. You married her & she even bore you a child. Are they not important to you? Are you not working hard on them? Always always regularly love, adore & appreciate your wife. And when you do so, it's not easy for you to be tempted by such temptress anymore.
Your "pretty" friend is in no comparison with your wife whom you chose to marry. If you've already made your choice in your marriage partner, it must have been good & you should have no regrets.
You must have already considered many factors before plunging into marriage with your wife, including not considering other females anymore. Just as your wife did the same too. If you're considering other females, you should not consider getting married in the first place.
Please come out of this mess before it's too late. It also involves your child too. And your child need a loving environment to grow & be nurtured by both of you. Be a man. Be a responsible man.
If your "pretty" friend really like to get married, recommend your male friends to her. She may look fantastic to you. But she could be "rotten" inside, a nuisance / trouble-maker etc., you never know. In fact, she's giving you a BIG headache now.
If your "pretty" friend loves you, she should not be selfish & should have considered your feelings & your family. She should not pursue you further & make you in a difficult tight spot. She should let you go & remain friends with you at the most.
Get over it. Ok, you can feel happy that a "pretty" girl ask you to marry her. And FULL STOP. Do not go further with her. Go further with your wife & child instead. No regrets. You've to be strong. How will you feel if your wife is in your shoes? Do you like it if she abandon you simply for a charming man? Isn't it very shallow? Please consider carefully. Please be a man of depth.
2006-08-30 04:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be true to your wife and baby on the way. this woman is crossing the line. so what if she's pretty, you are spoken for and hopefully responsible. do you want to risk your marriage and not being with your child. get away from this lady! unless you really want to be with her, but that's ultimately your choice. think long and hard. looks only get you so far.
2006-09-04 13:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by bernie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your wife and kid. When you get old, you aint pretty anymore and the other lady will most probably cheat on you if she cant respect that your already married.
2006-08-30 06:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by HumbleOpinion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay with your wife! she had your child all of that pain and she did that for you both. if you think that you will ruin your relationship then you should stay with your wife plus if the petty woman hasn't respected your wishes and has ignored you then she doesn't actually care and she will wear the pants in your relationship. plus looks aren't everything stay with your wife
2006-08-30 05:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by confused 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're married - it's either you divorce your wife or you just forget about the other woman. You have to have one woman only at a time!
2006-08-30 04:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by francheska888 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is an easy one....... Bang the pretty chick for a while until you get sick of her crap (which you will). Just don't let your wife find out. BETTER YET.... see if your wife will join you and the other chick for a little romp!!
2006-08-30 05:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by a very sensitive man 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You like her because she's pretty? What if one day she's not anymore?
Marry should be a commitment of life.
2006-08-30 04:12:42 · answer #11 · answered by evelyn_01 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋