I let my 32 year old sister live with me. Soon afterwards she moved her boyfriend in and got a dog that peed everywhere. She wasn't paying bills and wasn't even on my rental agreement, so due to stupid CA laws I had to give her 30 days to leave. She left the day before her 30 days were up. I realized she had stolen several items from me my new backpack, computer router, dvd's dvd rack etc... Well I came across her ebay account and noticed that she sold the Magic Mountain tickets that had dissapeared from my house and some of my dvd's. I want to press charges, but I keep hearing that it may be considered a civil matter were I'll have to take her to court and I feel like it's such a hassle. What should I do? What would you do? I've already placed a complant with ebay!
2006-08-29 20:51:38 · 13 answers · asked by sarahbeth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also, she is 32 and I'm 23, she had nowhere to go and I was trying to help her. She was getting both child support and unemployment so she wasn't short on cash. When i told her she had to leave I did it in a nice way saying that I couldn't afford to support her and some guy. I had asked her to get rid of the dog. She tried to call the police on me and get a restraining order against me in my own house! She told them I was being verbally agressive and I wasn't at all! She had a baby and I was just trying to give her a place to stay. I have no problem pressing charges because I'm not the first person she has done this too and she needs to know it's not okay!
2006-08-29 21:08:04 · update #1
Get a lawyer and sue her. If you have pictures of the stuff you had they stole, so much the better. Check to see just what dollar amount constitutes grand theft. It sounds like she may be close. Pursue the matter with eBay. Get her banned from the eBay community-it's her fault, not yours.
Don't ever let her in your house again. If she ends up in jail for what she's done, let her rot. You are NOT obligated to do anything for her. You tried and got the short end of the stick. She has no respect for blood or other people's things. Don't accept phone calls from her, and don't let your parents cajole you into dealing with her. Tell them that you don't have to associate with her just cos she's family. She forgot that when she stole from you and showed no remorse.
Change your phone number and get some deadbolt locks and burglar bars! Good Luck!
She really sounds like a crackhead.
Family or not, there are certain things you JUST DON'T DO.
2006-08-29 20:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by thatwench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a theft, its a criminal matter. You wont be able to recover any property, or $ from her that way. In order to do that you would have to press criminal charges, she would get jail time ect if convicted. In order to get any monetary value from her you would have to sue her. Which is sometimes more money than its worth. Also criminal charges could be hard to stick. Plus you really need to decide if the things that are missing are worth more than your relationship with your sister. ( I know that right now its very damaged) But calling the police could make it much worse. I suggest just distancing yourself from her, and not putting yourself in a position where she can steal from you agian. Hopefully one day she will straighten up and apologize, but dont hold your breath. Sometimes, even though its not saying what she did was right, its better to just let things go. Plus im sure this is putting a strain on your extended family. Best of luck
2006-08-29 21:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by beachbebe_03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work for my local police department and this will vary from state to state, but in Mississippi, it will be a civil matter due to the fact that you were living together at the time and you had to give her an eviction notice. I would suggest you going to speak with your local police department and ask. If the value of the items taken is more than about $100.00 it may be worth going to civil court over. It really just depends on wether or not you want the items replaced or a salvagable relationship with your sister. Since she took the items and sold them, there may be criminal charges you can press instead of criminal. Just speak with your local police department to find out want you can do in their jurisdiction. I hope this helps and I hate that this happened to you! best of luck!
2006-08-29 20:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Karin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cutt her out your life!!Don't have people in your life that harm you in any way regardless if they are even family!She isn't much a sister and she has no morals or respect.You were good enough to let her move in she should of showed you more respect ,so you done all you could do and its her decision how she does you.She will answer for it too one day!So until she can apologize and make it up to you and treat you like a loving sister and that she can be trusted don't let her around you again,in time she will see her wrongs and try and make amends so till then let her go.Good luck and sorry to hear how a sister could be so shitty but it happens everyday sorry just had to happen to you!
2006-08-29 21:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have the receipt for the tickets? Did you pay for them?
Do you have a screenshot of the tickets on ebay? All the information? Well it's a crime and they can tell you it's civil but if you can prove ownership even if she lived with you, you may persue criminal charges.
2006-08-29 20:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by David W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police. Theft is theft even if it is within the family. Do not put up with such behavior. Her selling your items is proof of theft not just borrowing without permission and she has permanently deprived you of these items.
2006-08-30 01:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by U.K.Export 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel your sister is replacable, then by all means - take her to civil court. if your stuff is more replacable in your mind, then just talk to her about it. it's amazing these days how easy it is for something to tear a family apart. i barely kept mine together over a pair of earrings! but opinions have changed and we deffinately treat eachother differently. my husband's youngest sister has alienated herself from the rest of her family over money. both of these were results of family deaths, but i'm quite sure your issue could balloon like that also.
don't get me wrong, if you don't care for your sister (at this point i could easily get along with never talking to either of mine again, i saved them from being ostrisized for my parents sake) then do it. there is only one more thing to remember - it will affect everyone in your family.
2006-08-29 21:03:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jenessa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it will probably not worth the hassle. But at least you now know that you have to be careful of your sister. If you are older consider it your help for her-maybe she is having terrible financial crises. If you are younger- be grateful that you are not her. -yunesa@yahoo.com
2006-08-29 20:59:54 · answer #8 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this experience will teach you never to trust any body unless you are sure he is trustfull.
think that you paid for this lesson.
call her, tell her you got the lesson and lost the staff, while she got the staff and lost the sister for good.
let her think about that and stop dealing with her
2006-08-29 21:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by boiling boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sad, just call her and tell her you're dissapointed she did that to you. dont get angry or anything, just be very calm and tell her. and then say bye. trust me nothing will make her feel worse then that!
2006-08-29 20:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋