How do I stop being a buffoon?

Question

I am a very strange, miserable, pathetic person who makes no sense. I wish to change my personality. How would I go about doing that?

This is not nonsense. I am serious.

Answer 1

Err...personality is just behavior.

Think about what makes a person cool? He does cool things.

What makes a person smart? He does smart things.

What makes people think you're a buffoon? You do stupid things.

And those things are a result of your individual experience in life.

In other words, you learned how to deal with situations in your life and now your solutions to your problems are limiting you.

It's like language. Some are used everywhere and helpful (English), others good for only looking nerdy (Latin).

All non-instinctual behavior is learned despite anyone saying you must ask God to help.

Seriously, God is not going to wave a magic wand and change your behavior.

If he exists (or if you believe in him) and pray to him, he may "give" you strength to do what is necessary to change, but he won't flip that switch for you and make you a different person overnight.

You've still gotta take your life into your own hands, God or no God.

What experiences caused you to react and act like this? Why do you act like a buffoon? Hell, forget that. That's too Oprah and gives no real results.

How do you currently act? Do the opposite, like George Costanza in Seinfeld. See what's different. See what works and what doesn't. Get rid of what doesn't work, keep what does. And keep trying different things. Have fun.

What works for you will still be uniquely yours. It will suit you. It won't be an "act."

Just a different side of you. Like when you're with your friends or with your parents and strangers. You act different in all three situations.

When you're fat, asking God to make you skinny won't work. Asking why you are fat and won't make you skinny. Working out and eating less will make you skinny.

But what exercises you do and types of foods you eat to stay skinny forever will still be different from everyone elses. They will suit you. They won't be an "act."

Just a healthy version of you.

Like when you go shopping for clothes and they have new styles of clothing, but you're still able to find stuff you like even when they're different from what you have now. It's new, but still you.

Samething with buffoonery.





Insanity is doing the same thing over and over yet expecting different results - Albert Einstein.

Stupid is as stupid does - Forrest Gump

Answer 2

I see from the wording of your question you are asking about finding a way to hide the truth. For me that big word "I" used as the source of the change is what tells me so.

I once read an item that said a man can put a coat and tie on a pet dog, teach him to hold a cigar in its mouth, teach it to walk on hind legs, put shoes on its feet, a mask on its face, and put fake hands on its front paws, all as a disguise. He can then check the dog into the best hotel in a suite and still the dog will piss on the rug because he is a dog.

I do not mean to discourage you, but one of the suggestions in being silent may help in the deception. However know all is really just a hiding of the truth. Personality is a combination of the innate nature of an individual and can only be changed if the innate nature is permanently changed. Some say it can be controlled by drugs, training, etc., but again that is just another form of disguise which is designed to hide the real truth.

A real permanent personality change requires a change in the innate nature which is impossible for the "I" in you to do. It must be done for you by an outside source greater than a humankind.

I gave you a hint, so you just smile an take it from there. Do a little research and look for some possibilities of existences that are other than humankind. While doing that do have a good day.

Answer 3

I think you have to start by changing the way you perceive yourself.

You have value, whether you realize it or not. You have to find out what that value is. What are your strengths? Are you a good communicator? I see no mispelled words, and that's something of an accomplishment. Obviously you are literate.

Are there any people in your life who love and value you? Talk to them. Find out why they love and value you.

Build on those strengths. Now do understand that you DO have strengths. You have to discover what they are.

Once you have had a chance to meet the better you, find a way to dress it and change its appearance to make yourself look like the successful and valuable person who does make sense.

You cannot go on thinking yourself as stange, miserable, pathetic and making no sense. You must learn to value yourself. You must acquire self-respect. You must learn to like and even love yourself, not at the exclusion of other people, but at the elevation of yourself to the level of people you respect and trust.

Are you religious? I suggest you consider turning your life over to Jesus--or at least to God. Whether or not you choose to become a Christian, any religion will help you find your proper place in the universe. I am not a Bible-Thumper, although I am an unabashed and committed Christian who sincerely believes faith can save us from ourselves if not from Satan.

Have I given you some things to work with? I hope I have. You may e-mail me at [e-mail] if you want to visit further in turning your life around.

Changing your personality will not happen in an hour or a day or a week. It will take time and commitment and discipline.

God bless you and good luck.

Answer 4

Be calm: listen carefully, only speak after a pause to think out and collect your thoughts: do not feel obliged to fill in breaks in the conversation by uttering whatever comes into your head.Drop all notions of low self esteem, and recognize that you are a unique individual and that your thought out options are as valid as anybody elses.
Silence is at times golden, and people will listen more thoughtfully when you do offer comment. I think that by following such suggestions, you will truly gain respect.

Answer 5

you can start by making grooming as a habitual or checking yourself into the mirror and realize that you are pretty and perfect so there are many people, who isn't as lucky as you are, who need your help. And by helping people you can gradually adapt yourself to humanity and socializing, of course.

Answer 6

You could start by not asking such questions. Stop trying to change everything. Just treat people how you would want them to treat you.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I asked that to myself years ago.

My solution is to become quiet(talk firendly if they talk to you,but if they dont dont talk).misterious,always help people specially girls, and focus on school work.

That way i stopped being a buffon, i never say stupid things, since i still talk and help if tehy talk to me i have many good friends including nice girls and i have high grades.

Its also importanto to be thinking in what you are doing all the time, you never know wtf will result.

It did help...im still a complete weirdo and depressed, but many things got better.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Think before you speak. Speak infrequently. Watch where you are going.

Answer 10

OMG I ask myself that question all the time.