If you have liked someone for over a year and recently he asks where you are going, and who's going and told you that he has been thinking alot about you lately, and always wants to know where you are......and kissed you VERY unexpectedly and was really sweet and did things that no other guy has done for you. But he still hollers at other girls.....what do i do?
2006-08-29 20:00:59 · 32 answers · asked by ashleyritchie2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, unless you are dating exclusively, there is nothing you really can do with the exception of getting him to pay attention to you only.
Guys will flirt with other girls just as much as they are allowed to, so if you are in a relationship, tell him to knock if off now. If you are not yet in a relationship start trying to get him to notice you more by doing little things.
You said he always asks where you are so start hanging out with some guy friends more so when he asks you can let him know you were with another guy. Nothing attracts a person more than the thought that someone else is attracted to them!
You can also boost up your flirting by dressing a bit more sexy (not slutty) when you know you are going to see him. Always make sure your hair and makeup are done.
Find out what his interests are then ask him about them or if they are something you can participate in like bowling or going to a ball game, go.
Whatever you do, don't act jealous because that is a sure way to make sure you never get kissed by him again.
Good Luck!
2006-08-29 20:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweets. Be VERY careful. If was or is that into you he wouldn't be talking to other girls. This can be a couple things. He knows you've liked him, and he's become your worst enemy. He is using the crush you've had on him to his advantage and trying to get something out of you, without having anything real for you going on. Or, he realized that he does like you, after all this time, and is trying to show how appealing he is. How many girls want him. He sounds young, and if he's not, STAY AWAY! Anyone older than their early 20's playing a game like this has got issues. If I were you hun, I'd walk straight up to him and ask him. Flat out. No crap. Is he into you, and only you? Is he into girls, and that includes you, but doesnt limit him to only you? Value yourself above any other, and the right decisions will come. Just be patient. Make sure that he's genuine, don't let him walk on you. Good luck sweets.
2006-08-29 20:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask him to get to the point. "Do you want to hang out with me? Do you want an exclusive relationship? Do you just want to mess around? What?" He may already be aware of your feelings about him and may be "testing the waters." The unexpected kiss may have been a test of sorts. I hear you on all the things he's done, but he still hollers at other girls? What's that all about? If he can't clearly and concisely explain to you what his intentions are, I'd tell him to back off. Why does he have to know where you are and who you're hanging out with? I say leave him alone. Sometimes the people we want aren't what's best for us. He sounds like a potentially controlling boyfriend. Take a step back from yourself. Use the Girlfriend Rule: If your best girlfriend came to you with this, how would you respond to her?
2006-08-29 20:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you will find most guys will do this just becuase they can,There really is no changing it, i went through the same problem but after a while he saw i was dissapointed in him and he stopped, you may find he is just showing off with his friends around my advise is to either leave it and see if he changes for you or confront him and let him know how you feel, depending on his feelings for you he may change. Hope it gets resolved.
2006-08-29 20:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep going where you were going in the first place and maybe you'll find someone who won't be "hollering" at other girls! Sounds like a guy who wants his cake and eat it too. There's someone else out there for you, keep going, DON'T STOP!!!! Just walk away Renee...........Walk, walk.........walk, walk......... just walk on by........These boots are made for walkin'..............think you get my drift! Best of Luck!!!
2006-08-29 20:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself what it is you want from this person. If it is a relationship then you need to tell him. If he feels the same way then you tell him what it is you expect from him and vice versa. No need to make more of something that may be not anything at all.
2006-08-29 20:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by mksgna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.it kinda sounds like he's abusing the fact that he knows you like him.
i was in a relationship like that.
i liked this guy for a long time..
and we would do stuff..like hang out..talk..everything..
but he would still talk to and flirt with other girls..
it ended really bad when i found out he was actually secretly dating my best friend for over 4 months..
so..guys like that can't be trusted.
i still care about him..like the feelings won't go away..
but i don't regret not talking to him anymore.
hopefully that situation doesn't happen to you..
but guys who are like..they need to know where you are and who you're with and everything..yet seem to do sweet things for you..but still talk to other chicks..can't exactly be trusted..
2006-08-29 20:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I can tell, he is clearly not too serious about you if he is still flirting with other girls.
I guess I want to know, what exactly has he done for you that no other guy has done?
2006-08-29 20:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well It seems to me that he really cares for but maybe not the same as you. ask him about his fellings for you and tell him your fellings. yeah its easier said than done but hopefully you can puck up the courage from your fellings. Or maybe he is just trying to make you jealous? or, hate to say it but maybe he just wants some??!!
2006-08-29 20:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Just keep your cool. Get to know him better without putting out. Once you really get to know him, your image of him might change and he's not so hot after all.
This guy's playing, so be careful.
2006-08-29 20:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋