to act at my age..i lost her trust because i had a boyfriend before that do not pass to her criteria..wat am i going to do..
2006-08-29 20:00:42 · 20 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need time to make her sure that you are a grown-up.
2006-08-29 20:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by Amir D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is age is nothing but a number apparently people are quick to use that saying when it applies to other things I believe in that saying simply cause don't call yourself a adult just cause you turned 21 first of all regardless of how long ago it was you lost your mothers trust nobody else did it but you and trying to use the I'm old enough know routine isn't going to help you need to show that you can be trusted.
If you are still living in mommy's house and she is still providing for you for instance: washing your clothes, cooking your dinner, providing you with clothes on your back um even if you do work and she is your alarm clock still waking you up in the morning then I'm sorry you are not an adult you still a child which proves that age is just a number.
grow up and stop complaining you should have thought of that before you broke your mothers trust.
Last thing :: cant be that bad you still living at home.
2006-08-30 14:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by a_bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u from India?
I guess so. N don't worry things would b fine. Tell her in a very sweet way that u need ur freedom n u r an adult who's mature enough to make ur own decissions. I know how much pain it is when u r restricted to hang out with pals n stuff. But there's one thing that u have to do....... u have to make sure that u don't betray her trust. Don't try to break away without lettin her know how u feel. Tell her once.... wait for sometime to c the change. If it still doesn't work out.... give her one more chance.. n then if it still doesn't work.... tell her that u r movin out to pursue ur career or studies n leave that freakin city. But all i feel is that ur mom's doin this cos she's protective n she would have gone thro some s.h.i.t when she was ur age. Its better u talk to her n let her know how broken u feel when u r restricted n tell her that u r not a kid still. BTW Don't do drugs :)
2006-08-30 04:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Dj Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and I've made massive mistakes when it comes to dating now my mother approves of no one. She just got over my fiance took her a min. and some talking. So try talking and if that don't work wait a week or two and try again eventually it will sink in that just because you were with someone she didn't like once doesn't mean it is going to happen again. History doesn't always have to repeat itself.
2006-08-30 03:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
although you are 21 and considered an adult by law your freedom depends on how independent you are. do you live on your own or do you still live under your moms roof is so she has the right to make the rules, do you work and make your own money or do you still depend on your mom to supply your needs. everybody has the right to have friends, hanging out with friends is important let your mom know how important this is to you and show her the you are trust worthy.
2006-08-30 03:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 21? Move out and be your own person. When I was 21, I had been living on my own for 3 years and no one told me what to do and when.
2006-08-30 03:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, now that ur 21 she can't tell u what to do anymore-- u can still respect ur mom and be yourself. go to college or get a job ---ur an adult and if u want a boyfriend u should have a boyfriend. just use good judgement and get a decent guy.
2006-08-30 03:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT ARE YOU DOING ???
Not sure what it is like in America but anyone in your possition in Europe is considered mentaly ill.
I moved out at 14 years of age and became financialy independant by 15 selling my company for 180,000 pounds sterling.
2006-08-30 03:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon.......I am afraid that if you live with mom - it is her house, her rules, her attitude.
Time for you to get out on your own. You are right that at 21 you are older, but you are still under your mom's roof. When my adult kids lived at home I had rules and they also had to pay rent unless they were in college
2006-08-30 03:09:50 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are parents. They are just being protective and responsible for us. We'll only understand when it's time for us to be one (parent). Understand them and trust them though, for they know best and are just playing their roles.
It's important to gain their confidence and trust, that we have grown up, can make our decisions, that we can be independent. That's when they will release their grip on us, a little.
2006-08-30 03:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by TK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off tell your mom to KISS YOUR A-S-S your an adult and that is how you need to act! tell her it dont matter if they pass her or not cause she isnt there friend and tell her to kiss off ill hang out with who i want when i want im grown! that should be your answer to her!
2006-08-30 17:14:40 · answer #11 · answered by vance71975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋