My boyfriend has an 18 year old ,He is into drugs and drinking alot,
boyfriend has talked and talked to the son .Nothing helps the son is very spoiled and yells everytime he do not get his way . the other night his mom caught him snoting coke and throwed him out of the house ,Now the son wantsto come live with us but I amscared that he will hurt me and he has tied and tried to get me to smoke pot with him and i have not done any drugs at all .We are afried that if we do not let him live with us that he will do something to us ,and we do not want to loose our house due to having a teen doing drugs , The son has called my boy friend all kinds of bad names to bad for me to type them on here , I have called the police and talked to them . They do not want to help .
The ex wife has called my boyfreind 2 nights in a row bitching him out telling him that he is a bad father if he do not let the so live with us . My boyfriend is at a loss and i have tried to give him suggestions .
2006-08-29 19:48:32 · 3 answers · asked by dee d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have given hi suggestions . we need some advice and quickly cause we really do not want the son to live with us but he makes hs dad feel guilty if he do not get his way .
2006-08-29 19:50:58 · update #1
I don't see any reason why you should allow him to live with you guys---he's 18 so there's no obligation at all. I'm sorry you have to be in the middle of this and unfortunately your opinions won't carry the same weight as if you were married to your BF which is the respectable thing to do if you live together.
2006-08-29 19:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, this is a tough situation, no matter what you do someone will be upset. your bf's son is a spoiled brat, and when he got kicked out of mom's house, he thought, hey, dad will let me live with him. But what he needs is a lesson in life. Do NOT let him come live with you, especially if your afraid of what he might do to you, that alone is a good enough reason to turn him away. He'll go crying to Mommy and she'll yell at you, but you can not give in. Once you do, you just reinforce the idea in his head that he can do what he wants when he wants.
2006-08-30 02:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Right 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18, he is a man, not a child. If I were in your place, I'd make up an ironclad set of rules.
Work or school with no missing days
No drugs or alcohol
No temper tantrums
Write the rules up in a contract and have the son sign it. If he doesn't honor the rules, he is put out immediately because he's made his choice.
The mom has no right to try to make your boyfriend feel guilty because she threw him out and won't let him live with her.
2006-08-30 02:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋