She is 18 and this idiot she is with is crazy, he beats her for no reason and does not let her go anywhere. If he see's her with her friends he grabs her out the car and starts fighting with her and makes her go home. She is so scared to say anything or call the cops cause he hits her more. We dont know what to do. And if I wouldn't try to stop him, my boyfriend would probably try to kill him, but this is just a little 19 year old boy she is seeing.....but he is crazy!!!! She just keeps protecting him and wont let us do anything to help her cause she is so scared....any advice would help...plz
2006-08-29 19:39:28 · 15 answers · asked by na nah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I were u, when u c this happening call the police urself. At some point someone is going to get hurt, and hopefully it's not ur sister. Most men that do this to there spouse are jealous and any little thing can set them off. Let her know that she does not have to tolerate any abuse from him and that she is not alone, and she can always get help from the battered womans crisis center. Most importantly she needs to get/stay away from him!!
2006-08-29 19:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by babgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 19 this person is an adult and should act accordingly If I had knowledge of their address like you I would do something about it NOW! Since I cannot go to his home and EXPLAIN to him about the proper way to treat a woman I think you and her should call the police and with them, make a trip to a shelter for her, and see how this piece of S*** fights with real men. I know he will turn out to be a wimp because that is the only type person that over compensates for his lack of spine by beating a woman. PLEASE for your Sister in law's sake call the police and remove her from this Psycho's grasp before he kills her. The sooner the better, call the police today and let them know the situation. They will tell you what has to happen so they can arrest him and put him in jail. Don't wait till 911 has to be called because she has been killed, and if you don't believe me you can ask the police how many times when this type of abuse is not stopped in time,what will be likely to happen to your Sis-in-law.
2006-08-29 20:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by eudaemon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to date this guy! You stand in the way. You call the cops. It does not matter how everyone reacts to it...........you do it. After I finally came to my senses, I was so hurt and appalled by how many saw things and did nothing.
Like a bunch of apes turning thier backs when the dominating ape beat his chest.
She may be weak, but you are not! If he pulls that crap in front of you........confront him, then call the cops and report him. She may get all scared, and tell you that you are making it worse, but you aren't.
He will get worse if the light is not on him. Like a roach, they scurry to the corner when the bright light snaps on. Keep telling her that you love her, and will be there for her. She and possibly your boyfriend will get pissed because you won't stand back and let this happen.
BUT wouldn't you rather have integrity, then be bullied, and turn your head like a coward just because some of the players are saying,"You are making it worse!"
I know what I am talking about. Be strong for her, and stand up to it!
2006-08-29 19:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by MOI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister doesn't cooperate, it is hard for the police to do any thing. Most states do have domestic violence laws that dictate an officer must make an arrest if there is physical evidence of domestic violence. Depending on your state, bf/gf abuse may qualify as domestic violence. If so, any time she is abused, and there is PHYSICAL EVIDENCE, such and bruises, scrapes, red marks, cuts, call the local law enforcement and report the situation and request a wellfare concern checkup be made. If the police can catch him in the act, or it can be video taped, she won't have to file the charges, the officer should.
2006-08-29 19:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by s.texaswrknman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to certainly say that as tempting as beating her up sounds, it received't remedy something. the great element to do will be to confront her about it. Ask her some questions and tell her how she makes you sense. Stand your floor and do not enable her attempt to interrupt issues. i'd also recommend speaking on your boyfriend about it. If he's conscious of how you sense then he could be supportive and tell her to back off slightly.
2016-12-05 23:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sister-in-law is the one that must take affirmative action. If she wants it stopped you and others can support her but no one can stop it for her. If he leaves marks and or bruises on her and there are witnesses go to the hospital and or the police immediately they can take pictures and statements. A judge could issue a restraining order and other legal actions. But nothing can happen if she wont sign a legal complaint. Talk it over with her and make a desicion on what to do next time it happens because it will happen again. DO NOT THREATEN HIM with this just do it if she commits to you she wants it to stop.
2006-08-29 19:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by fred f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a dick. He needs to get knocked the f**k out cos in Australia we say "no 2 violence against women" Or on the other hand get your sister in law away from him for a while and get her to go to the police, etc. If your good with a shovel, all you need is a bag of lime (the one that is caustic).
2006-08-29 19:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably going, to mane , scar, or kill her. She's so young and got caught up so fast in this BS. Sister-girl needs help. Talk to the police, to a women's shelter staff . He's a boy, with a mental problem. I know , 19 years old doing time in jail , on assault, atemped murder charges. Don't be afraid , get help for your sister. Work smart and with others, he's dangerous.............
2006-08-29 20:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by maybirdfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had gotten great advice from the message board brokenspirits.com.... you can get real advice from ppl who have been in that situation.
But please don't take his young age as being a label for innocence. at 19 if he's this violent now, imagine when he's 29 or 39? might as well try to get him the help he needs sooner than later. take your sis in law to get a restraining order and maybe have her hang out at your house for a couple days till he calms down.
hope this helps
2006-08-29 19:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Shayla. You call the cops for her. She might be angry at first, but in the long run, I bet she'll appreciate your intervention. Nobody deserves to be treated like that....except for maybe the jerk that's beating on her. Hope things work out!
2006-08-29 19:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋