my sister got robbed, what can i say or do to help her feel better?

Question

guy robbed her in broad daylight pointed the gun to her side... took her whole purse including her license, house keys, bank cards and sidekick bfeeling speechless, don't know what to say or do, any suggestions

Answer 1

She is so lucky to be alive that should make her feel good. A couple of years ago some guy robbed a old women here from the passenger side of his car in the mall parking lot and she refused to let go of her purse the jerk dragged her around the lot and she died..


Material things can be replaced life can't..

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear about your sister being robbed. What a horrible and frightening experience. She can replace all of the things in her purse, except for things like pictures and those types of things. She is very, very blessed that she wasn't shot or abducted or raped or worse. The world can be a really crazy place sometimes, and unfortunately there are way too many of these types of incidences going on daily. I am sure that your sister is going to be scared and upset for a long time over this. Has she filed all the paperwork with the police. It would be a good idea to speak to them again and see if they can recommend a reputable counselor; as she will likely be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as soon as the shock and fright wears off. Just be there for her as much as you can, sometimes just letting a traumatized person know you are there can be very helpful, you do not have to talk; unless she chooses too. I will say a prayer for her healing and future. You can help her apply for a new license, and cancel her accounts and those types of things. She may want to get new locks for her doors as well, especially if the robber had access to her address. My mother-in-law had her purse stolen years ago, and one of the thieves was caught "casing" her house and the second was caught because he went to one of those fast-cash places and tried to cash her paycheck, which had been in her purse; she was on the way to the bank. When the check cashing person called her place of employment and asked if she worked there and explained that someone was cashing her paycheck, her boss practically screamed into the phone that the person was a thief and my mother in law was standing right next to him and had her purse stolen. The police really enjoyed catching this crew. There were two others involved, who whould take the charge cards and charge all kinds of mercandise, and the police caught them too by tracing activity on her charge cards. She was most brokenhearted about losing pictures of her parents and a rosery her Mom had given her when she and my father in law had gotten married. I don't know where you live, but crime is so wide-spread now, it could be anywhere. Hang in there and help you sister as much as possible, you are blessed to have each other. Have a good night.

Answer 3

Wow, she's really lucky although I'm sure that's the last thing she wants to here. If she is in a position to move, I would tell her to move. If not make sure she gets all her locks changed. There's not much else she can do, other than cancel credit cards and have someone always there with her, which gets pretty impractical. Tell her that the creep sounds like someone who got what he wanted and probably dumped everything but her cash (probably already tried to use credit cards) He's probably not brave enough to come to her house. She will have to decide if she feels safe enough to stay where she's at. I hope she reported this, maybe she could look at some mugshots and maybe get him off the streets. How scary, good luck to both of you.

Answer 4

I myself have been robbed at gunpoint. Where mine was kinda funny(the guy only got $1.00), I actually had nightmares about it for a long time. She needs support, and she needs to know that it is safe to live in the world. She will need to be around family and friends she can trust, especially at night for a while. Let her know that it's an isolated incident, and not likely to happen again. Talk her into taking defense classes and carrying pepper spray for her self confidence. And if she can't remember what to tell police, remind her that most people don't remember details of a tramatic event until 48 hours afterwards. Your law enforcement agency should have a crimes victims advocate who could help with counselling and follow up assistance if needed. Make sure to cancel all credit cards and change all locks imediately.

Answer 5

Your sister is pretty lucky

y? bcs she is alive, unhurt

Material things can be bought, but her life is priceless. What you can tell her is that just think of it as if you are throwing away your bad luck, because no matter what things happen for good, maybe she could have been injured or even killed. Things happen in life, we just have to face it. I know she must be feeling scared, sad, frustrated and alot of stress but there is nothing we can do to help her but tell stories which are similar and explain the outcome.

Answer 6

I have to agree with one of the other people posting " Material things can be replaced; she cannot.

Help her call the DOT and replace her liscence, call the bank and stop the credit card, change the locks to her house/apt...

and most of all...

BE there for her when she cries, or feels scared. Simply being there speaks more than words ever can.

Best of luck in renewing her security in herself and her life.

Answer 7

This happened to a friend of mine (but not with a gun being threatened) and I just did not know what to say to that friend and all she kept chanting was "I have lost all my identity"

All I can say is "time will heal" and may the filthy people of our society rot

Answer 8

Give her a big hug and make her feel comfortable. Offer your help if she needs one. ask her if she needs company when she goes out and you can be one.

Answer 9

give her mace.