He wanted to keep in touch and talk over the phone once in a while to keep you in his life. Should you follow his suggestion or should you just cut it off totally and move on? Confused and need help.
2006-08-29 19:27:24 · 17 answers · asked by 1001Questions 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing wrong with having friends, but you can keep it at your level until he knows where he stands.
2006-08-29 19:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would follow the suggestion. There is nothing wrong with being friends after a break-up. Him suggesting that just let's u further kno that he still wants 2 b in ur life as a friend, n that he still has respect for u as a person. Of course, it can be awkward for a little while, but eventually that will pass. Pretty soon, ur friendship could b much better than it was b4 ya'll hooked up because ya'll know deeper things about each other. U can help each other out still, being cool friends. If u cut a person off that still wants 2 b friends with u, where does that get u? Absolutely nowhere. B friends still..it could b really good for u..do ur thing girl!
Peace n love.....
2006-08-30 02:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Musically Inclined 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clear up some issue you have and get the important questions out of the way. There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch as long as you're okay with it. Just make sure you know how he feels first and why. You're going to have to ask him those questions yourself. He could just be trying to be mature about the break up, and he sees that you're a good thing in his life. If he can't have you as a girlfriend, that doesn't mean he doesn't want you in his life at all. Me and my ex aren't really friends but we're still friendly towards each other and we're keeping in touch too. We both know we don't want to be together, no feelings are between us. We just want to keep in touch because we just want to check in on each other every once in a while. I only plan on calling like him once a month it's enough to me. We don't plan on seeing each other either. He can call if he wants too. Our break up wasn't that bad but a lot of **** did happen between us. He has reasons to resent me but this situation will work out for us.
Try be friends with him, it might be positive or might be negative you don't know but take a chance.
2006-08-30 02:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that he wants you back,he wants to keep you in his life so that he could try to get you back at any chance at all.U're almost in the same situation as me,my ex still asking me out he said as a "friend" ,I refused coz that's just a waste of time.If I were u,i just cut it off totaly and move on and thats what im doing now
2006-08-30 02:34:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to remain friends, then he's trying to stay close to you so that he can try to change your mind and get back together. You need a clean break for a little while before trying to be friends. It gives time for the feelings to fade a bit and change into more friendly feelings rather than romantic ones.
2006-09-06 21:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by ncladams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's a great idea. it shows he really did care about you. most guys would think you're a complete ***** and never talk to you again. he's a really nice guy then. there's nothing to lose in being friends. but try to not tell him about your new dating life..that may be a little awkward. if you're his ex and he wants to keep you in his life you're very lucky trust me. thats a great thing. if you completely cut him off you're just gonna hurt him more. i dont think he deserves that. i say you follow his suggestion. you cant lose anything in having another friend. now, if he begins to act like your boyfriend again, then you should probably tell him that you guys are just friends and if its hard for him to keep it that way then you guys shouldnt talk. But, as for now, he's the one whos hurt in this, he should be the one to decide whether he's strong enough to deal with being just friends with you. Thats just my opinion. you're very lucky that you met such a nice guy. he seems very sweet! give your friendship a chance..maybe thats what you guys were meant to be. he may even become a best friend! if not, you're not losing anything in becoming friends.
2006-08-30 02:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by umm hi<333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...let things cool down for a month atleasdt, that means try not o keep in touch, once you're both more calm, then you can become friends. yes it si possible, im friends with all of my ex, then you will also realise you have more fun being his mate then his girlfriend!
2006-08-30 02:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is worse than the lingering ex.
You're in control of who you choose to be friends with, or who you choose not to be friends with.
I'd just cut him off and move on.
2006-08-30 02:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by d h 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've got the same situation except i'm the guy callin'. it means he dosen't want a good freindship to end over a break-up. just because you're not "going out" dosen't mean you can't still hang out. he's not trying to flirt with you to try to repatch old wounds or anything.
2006-08-30 02:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by marshall s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation, but it really depends on you and how you feel about the whole thing, like if you still want to be connected to him, do it, if not then tell him that you just dont want to be like that
2006-08-30 02:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by ashleyritchie2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋