me and ex have been broke for almost 2 years and ever since the day he left he has been trying to come around since the day he left and now he is getting married he came around after his bachlor friends the night before he is to get married and asked could he use my restroom i waited for him on the porch and when he took to long coming down i went up and this fool got in my bed what is that all about
2006-08-29 19:05:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
might i add he took his clothes off and got under the covers did he think i was going to be weak for him
2006-08-29 19:12:36 · update #1
Well that fool couldn't have gotten in your bed if you hadn't let him in...surely there are other bathrooms he can use...*ahem*...
Either you are completely and totally irresistable to him, and/or you are putting out signals (consciously or subconsciously) that tell him you and he have a chance. I'm assuming there is a reason you broke up and have not repaired the relationship going on 2 years.
At any rate, now he is getting married to someone else. So unless you want to keep egging him on, deliberately or not, you need to tell him it's over and both of you get on with life. Otherwise, his pending marriage is doomed and for what? Do you want to be with him? If so, then why haven't you tried to work things out before now? And if not, then it's time to tell him hasta la vista baby. I'm betting his new wife-to-be will feel a lot better if you see less of him, just in case should ever need to use the restroom again. It may be flattering on some level to have him still want you, but no good will come of it unless you both are on the same page and for the right reasons.
2006-08-29 19:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by flysilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesn't love you, or he would be making an effort to court you, instead of just turning up like a bad penny.
Men are territorial. Even after they break up with a girl, they feel a sense of ownership and don't like to think of her being involved with anyone else (actually, I know some women like that too....). So I think he hangs around because he thinks that keeps him in your mind, and stops you moving on to someone new. He obviously likes to think he still has you on a string. I pity his poor new wife.
The first thing is, stop letting him in. Even if he wants to use the restroom. Tell him you don't care if he pees in your garden, he's not getting into your house. Threaten to call his wife if he comes around again. I'm guessing he's drunk when he arrives? Open the door with a mobile phone in your hand and say you're ringing the police to report him for stalking.
2006-08-29 19:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You called it right "FOOL". Some men have a hard time with closure even if they have moved on to another relationship. Of course, he may not be over you, who knows. Does he just come over after he has been partying??? Cuz that is called just horny, lol. Well, I hope you threw him out of your bed, you probably had a real good reason when you divorced him. You don't want to mess up anything you might have going on with someone else. And you sure don't need the drama and bull you will get involved in if or should I say when she finds out about it. Some guys you just can't stay friends with. Men, you can't live with them, and you can't live with them, lol. That's what they say anyhow. Good luck.
2006-08-29 19:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That dude has a couple of the main screws loose in his head. I could see if he did the bathroom/bed thing as a joke. But that doesn't seem to be the case here. It's looks like he been trying to keep tabs on you all a long. Now he seems to be throwing it in your face that he's getting married. Also, he's trying to get that "famous" last piece of free @ss before he is married and he wants it to be with you.
I wonder what his wife is like? How did he have the time to be with her if he coming around to you on the regular. Does she know about you?
2006-08-29 19:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the Psycho your going to file a Restraining Order against him. I hope you learned your lesson that picking up guys in bars is a bad idea.
2006-08-29 19:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a stalker and a fool. Get a restraining order on him and tell him you mean business. He needs to leave you totally alone.
2006-08-29 19:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could have called the police to have him removed . or better yet call the wife to be.he sounds like a nut .
2006-08-29 19:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is playing with your head.
2006-08-29 19:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by macki4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You allow him to "puke on you" so he continues to do it. You think you owe him something? You still love him? What the heck is he doing in your house...
2006-08-29 19:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a restraining order is just another way of saying i love you
2006-08-29 19:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by stump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋