Why are some women so cold and dismissive when a guy asks them out?

Question

I don't mean if the guy acts like an *** with stupid pick-up lines because then he might deserve it but if a guy is nice and asks her name and tries to talk to her? Why do they give guys that look like they're so insulted and how dare the guy even talk to her? It's kind of messed up to act like that. Guys don't act insulted.

And if you say, "I'm going for the wrong girls" then what girls should I be going for? How am I supposed to know if a girl is nice or not if I've never talked to her?
*And yes, this has happened to me but other guys too. And no i"m not repulsive; just a regular guy and no I don't go out of my league (meaning I don't approach really hot girls because I know i'll get turned down). And yes, I anticipate the mean remarks.

Answer 1

that's a darn good question! girls usually go for the A$$holes and not the nice one and when they get hurt by the guy, they start crying like there's no tomorrow... they're an interesting people. Good Luck Bud and just be yourself, if they treat you bad, that means they're not for you and dont know what they're missing!

Answer 2

This is the perspective from top dating pros:

Many of them are just average looking and they feel that it is easier to get hot girls if you know what you are doing than it is to get an average looking girl.

An average looking girl can always do better. But a hot looking girl with a guy who just act normal is hard to find. Most guys turn weird when they are around beautiful girls.

Most average girl think they are all that, especially the fat ones.. they have this defense like people talk to them because they just want sex.. lolz.. like they are getting any!

Another thing is.. hot girls become cold and dismissive is because.... if they get hit on 15x a day and they go out 5x a week.. That's 75x a week.. lets be conservative.. say they get hit on 5x a day and go out 3x a week. that's 15 hit on a week, 60 a month.. 720x a year from one guy after next. Soon these beautiful girls at around age.. 19-20 or so.. build up a b*tch shield to block the next guy.

A Nice guy = the Next guy

You got to know how to break through her b*tch shield or else you will just be another nice guy that hit on her 720 times a year.



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Answer 3

Maybe they don't intend to seem cold and dismissive. For a shy-ish woman it can be very awkward to be asked out if she's not in the market to be asked out for any number of reasons. What may appear cold may often mean uncomfortable, and what may seem dismissive may really just be awkwardness.

I'm sure there are some rude and arrogant women, just as there are rude and arrogant men; but I think more often women's reactions may just be misinterpreted.

You know, I know it must be difficult for men to have to walk up to someone and ask them out; but for women there can often be the situation where a woman has a boyfriend but is out with her girlfriends or she may have just broken up with a boyfriend or she may have some other reason to have no interest in accepting a date. She may have thought she'd go out for an evening and enjoy some music or have a drink, and some women could be approached by more than one guy in certain situations. They don't have to look like supermodels for this to happen. They just have to look kind of nice, and that's probably what makes you have interest in her.

So, if she's out and not looking for any dates and if she has been approached a couple of times by a guy (or, yes, even just the once; but that can happen often enough when she goes out that it can get old) she can kind of start to feel as if she could just relax and not have to worry about having to say "no" to even a nice guy who comes over.

You know how celebrities have to deal with photographers all the time, and while nobody feels bad for them and while they may not expect anyone to, the fact is it can get tiring? For many women, the thing with being asked out is like a scaled-down version of what goes on with celebrities (way scaled down, but a similar type of thing). Sometimes it can honestly be tiring. Nobody is saying they should be pitied, but at the same time it is a reality for many women.

So if you are nice enough to approach a woman to ask for a date, and if she doesn't respond in the most gracious way; don't take it personally. She's either shy-ish, uncomfortable, awkward, or maybe even a aggravated even if it isn't at you.

In the case of remarks that are undisputably mean there's no excuse for that, and its a different thing, and - honestly - you are approaching the wrong young women. They may not be bank robbers or trashy or insane, but there's something about them that you are missing as you try to judge their character; or there's something about an attitude they may give off without saying anything that you're attracted to.

Answer 4

Listen buddy you win some and lose some. You shouldn't down yourself by talking about women out of your league, I 've seen plenty of average Joe's with very beautiful women. The women that turn up their noses when you talk to them aren't really worth your time. Not every women will like you, because everyone has different taste. Women likes a man that is confident in his self and you should be. Think about your best traits and show them off without being cocky, but proud. It's a difference! You'll see when the girl you've eying looks at you!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Not all women are rude and unkind. Of course you are going to be rejected from time to time. Not all girls are nice either...Whatever you do don't loose self-confidence. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than an insecure man. Have confidence in yourself. Make sure there is a mutual attraction before approaching a woman, and for goodness sake make sure she is intereted before asking her out. I know what the next question is....How can I tell if she is interested and attracted to me. Well, It's all in the body language. Is she smiling at you? Is she standing close and touching you in any way? Oh come on, you know when someone is interested in you....Once you get the hints, then make your move. If you get turned down, move on and keep your self-confidence in check. Good luck.

Answer 7

Depends on where you are approaching them and how you look like. If you are in a bar/club, most girls just go for the hunk/bulky kind of guy who they think can realy give it them ( so much they know) and they are forcefull and not very gentle...cocky and forcefull works there.They save the "Nice" guys for when they want to settle down and get married and have a stable secure life with kids etc but not for dating and having a good fun time.Just be yourself and dont pay attention to rejection..just move on to the next and the next and the next untill you hit the jakpot.

Answer 8

Well maybe its the way you present yourself. Maybe you come off as creapy or something like that. People can be nice to you but it doesn't mean much unless it seems truly from the heart. Girls are good at reading what a guy truly wants and she may not be down for that. And guys can be insulting too for absolutly noo reason especially when they are trying to act all cool infront of the guys so dont act all inocent.

Answer 9

Two things are perfectly clear: this woman is a home wrecker out to take your husband out of your marriage and your husband is flattered by the attention. You need to put an end to all contact with this woman immediately. Your husband has to stop all texting, email, and personal encounters with this woman. He has to tell her to stop contacting him as he is a happily married man and does not wish to be "friends" with her. He should not answer any texts or emails or phone calls, nor should the two of you participate in any groups where she will be in attendance. You two need to cut her totally and completely from your lives. Your husband must agree to this. Go on amazon and read the blurbs of a book called Not Just Friends. It will tell you a lot. This woman is out to wreck your marriage and you need to stop this now.

Answer 10

It sounds to me that the girls are just not interested. A lot go by first impressions and although your probably a nice guy that doesn't mean all girls will like you on the spot. Just take the hint if this happens and move on. Plenty of girls would like to talk etc.