A question for the girls, from a girl :) Dating older men...?

Question

I'm currently dating an older man (eight years older), and have found that this relationship has become far more rewarding and fulfilling than any relationship I've had before. Yet, I've never dated a man who was older than me before. On average, the guys were my age, or younger.
I would like to hear about your experiences of a younger woman dating an older man; was the relationship a success, and why do you think it's easier, and happier, for woman to date older men?

Answer 1

Older men are almost always better, especially when you are young, since women tend to mature quicker.

In the age range 19-24 I find most males intolerable; the majority of young men are immature and inexperienced. Most have learned about sex from hard core porn, and think foreplay is trying to give you a facial and think that sex means anal. Not all of them have developed the concept that women are people.

Of course, you can't be hypocritical- females dating older men should be as mature or shouldn't complain when they are used for sex. The loud, bouncy, slutty clubber girl type is not very appealing in more than a carnal way.

I like men in their mid thirties, personally- I think that is the male prime. At that age, they not only have sexual experience but can last more than fifteen minutes. More importantly, they develop an intuitive passion and rhythm that is often lacking in the hormone-laden ardor of the younger type. Their personalities have developed and they know who they are and what they want in life. I prefer intellectuals, and at that age they've developed the poise, calm and thoughtfulness I find appealing, as well at the ability to converse intelligently.

There are always exceptions, of course- it just depends on the guy.

Answer 2

It is not necessarily easier and happier for women to date older men. There are many women who find themselves miserable living with older men. Then again there are many young men who find happiness with older women. The more important things are respect, understanding and trust - irrespective of differences in age - which are the fundamental strong points in any comfortable and happy relationship. Be cautioned though. A difference of eight years is normal. But a big age difference, say 15, 20 or 25 years could cause some serious problems as the people in such relationships grow older and as certain priorities shift in their lives. Their problems have to be addressed differently.

Answer 3

I have always dated someone that's older than me
never younger. Believe me, dating someone older
doesn't mean Jack sh*t. Some that's older may
have lots of experience and some may not have
experiences at all. Lol ;)
Some older people are still immature and likes to
play games and also lies, so it just depends on
who the person is. The way I see it, it's all 50/50
with young and older people. Like everyone was
saying you just found the right man.
I am 39 and my boyfriend is 48.....no big deal
except I found my soul mate, he is the greatest
the perfect man and also the love of my life.
(Numbers doesn't mean anything)

By the way I have gone out on dates with men that
were10, 11 years older than me and my god it was
a nightmare. So dating someone older doesn't
mean it's better, it just mean you found the perfect
man in your life.

Good luck & Best wishes to you both!

Answer 4

There I go again, answering a 'girls only' question. I guess gender lines don't apply to chipmunks... But at least I read the question.

There's losers and winners for each person, whether they are young or old makes no difference. Granted, some older guys take more responsibility if they're serious about the relationship, but plenty of older men still aren't serious about anything. It sounds to me like you just met the right guy, and you didn't take age into account when you made the choice. Good for you! You found your needle in a haystack. Congratulations!

Answer 5

It seems like I've always dated men older than me, the guys my age can be so immature and irresponsible and I end up having nothing in common with them. I dated one man that was 10 years older than me (I was 23 and he was 33) and honestly I never even paid much attention to the age difference. We had a lot in common and it was a very fulfilling relationship, however eventually his career took him out of state and I was not ready for that step, so we went out seperate ways. I think for a more mature woman who knows what she wants in life, older men are the way to go!

Answer 6

I'm a girl, and I am only 16 years old. And every single guy I have ever liked has been 25 years old or older. I don't know why but guys that are older, are just way more attractive to me.

Answer 7

I don’t date younger guys and I tend not to date guys my age (24) because I find the old adage of girls maturing faster than boys to be true. Many of the things I appreciate and enjoy cannot be understood by men until they reach at least very late 20s. On the same note, I find that it makes things easier if there's not a significant age and/or income discrepancy in a relationship. I dated a professor who was in his early 40s who was obviously very established in his career and in life. It was difficult trying to reconcile our plans for the future because while I was just starting out and completely invested in building my career, he was ready to settle down. Obviously something such as this would be a constant source of friction. Needless to say, we did not survive as a couple. We are however still friends.

Answer 8

I am 23 and I shoot for thirty usually. I had the same revalation not too long ago and its a world of a difference. Guys my age are usually still thinking about quantity not quality. The older men take so much longer to make a move on you is another thing that I noticed. The vibe and communication I have found to be so much better...generally speaking

Answer 9

Older men have usually been there and done that, so there for can half *** guess better than a younger man as to what a woman wants.

Answer 10

Every guy is different; but older should mean more experience!!
Some guys have the age and experience, but still haven't learned or retained the info!!
I was 21 and went out with a 42yr old guy who had been married twice and he didn't seem any more mature then some my age!
8 years is nothing; if he's good...KEEP HIM!!!!