I have been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs...He a great man!, but a little shy in bed. I` really worried about being my self and really letting go in bed. I was wondering if any men could tell me what else I could do that would not shock him. I really want to please him and know that I am doing everything I can to please him in bed. I ask him these thinks and he says he is, but I feel like I could do more if he would just open up.......Thanks
2006-08-29 18:32:36 · 10 answers · asked by summer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is the great man you feel that he is, then sit down with him and let him know that you are naturally more passionate than you show during sex. Let him know that you hold back ( and it is not because of him) but it is because you do not want to overwhelm him. Your desire though, is to be natural and to please him more. Reassure him of how much you care and how devoted you are. Very gently let him know that you are a little wilder and less inhibited during sex but in a good way. You realize how shy he is and you don't want to shock him. Also that you would do anything to please him. Ask him not to be afraid, to trust you and everything will be fine..."you'll see".
These are just ideas on how to approach the subject...of course you will find your own words.
You have to do this...otherwise there will always be something missing.
You may be underestimating him. Give it a try and go for it.
2006-08-29 19:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like his behavior stems from some psychological event in his life that still affects him. It could be his parents are like...Puritans or something. Just an idea.
Definitely sounds like you will not bring him out of his bashful state in bed. I honestly think some counseling is in order.
This is a serious answer. There is something that prevents him from being "normal" in bed. I doubt you will be able to find out what.
See a psychologist.
2006-08-29 18:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas C 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dont ask him questions or permissions, just do it. Do what you want to do, get him out of his shell.He will come around and be happy you did him a favour.Dont think about it too much before you do anything.Be spontanous and get him to be adventerous.If you get shy and hold back too, it wont get you nowhere, nobody learns and you will end up splitting up.Communicate more and do not be affraid to do so.
2006-08-29 18:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mark n 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are doing a great job now, so go for it what ever you want to try I'm sure he will be in to it tooooooooooooooo!
2006-08-29 18:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Michael 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what he wants to try or pop in a porn and point out stuff you want to try, use books to open up his mind check barnes and nobles' they have good stuff
2006-08-29 18:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey whips and chains and nipple clamps always work for me!
2006-08-29 18:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
When he comes over, answer the door naked.
2006-08-29 18:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Scott B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
woah you should have started on that years ago.
2006-08-29 18:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by lilryno_06 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get jiggy with him.
2006-08-29 18:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok
2006-08-29 18:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by nadine c 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋