What do you do when you cant go back?

Question

What do you do to stop crying and thinking about the one who your suposed to be with? After you have this great relationship and it ends terribly. And you wish things could go back the way they used to be in the begining. But you cant go back in time. Even though you know youd take back every mean word and anything you regret saying to that person. How do you deal with it when its over? How do you cope?

Answer 1

Go forward.

Answer 2

Oh I'm sorry for you.But don't think about it be/c thinking makes you cry more.Go do something with you friends.There is NO prosable way you could go back in time.But remember all the thing and good time that happened between you.It end badly but start good and every relationship goes that way.Someone somewhere out there has the same problem as you and is trying to get over it and trying to not let it show.But it is best to show your true feelings.Don't just forget about him.Try to start a conversation on the computer of at school or something.Who knows why he broke up with you but whatever you did or he did is done with and you can't go back you wish you could but no way get over him and dont think about that bad stuff that happened that will make you cry more.But don't waste your time on someone that will never waste their time on you!Also tell him how bad your are feeling.And you might ask yourself why am I coming to the person that made me cry well maybe he is the only one that knows the whole story to what's wrong with you!And he knows just how to make you feel better!
Well hope you feel better and good-luck
thanks

Answer 3

If it was such a great relationship then it wouldn't have ended. Don't make it into this perfect thing because it wasn't and that's why it ended.

You need to greive but then keep busy and move on. Most people that can't get over relationships make it much better than it was. Keep busy, hang with friends and don't make the same mistakes twice. You'll be fine.

Answer 4

It is always the situation that it is easier said than done but then u know that things are totally different right now..honestly i'm sumhow dealing with ur similar situation rite now and i even ask myself how am i suppose to deal with it...u cant help but u will always look back at all those sweet memories but remember that there is also life ahead can u cant always hold back....grief at it but always tell urself at the end of the day believe that things will get so much better one day...

Answer 5

Well, if you are that in love and miserable then just go back with that person..... Give it a little space and then slowly start working your way back into that persons life.... A little space can make the other person start feeling the same way and start missing you also...

Answer 6

You learn from your mistakes and move on.
Just don't take it out on the next person like you did with the one you lost because of your actions or words.
Besides it is better to be alone and without anybody,then to be with someone and be miserable with that person .
Congratulations ! you no longer have a ball and chain. :)

Answer 7

What do you do when you can't go back? You go on. Continue with your life without him. Keep busy. If it's over for good, then you're not supposed to be with him. Trust me, there's more guys. Get on with your life, get over him, get off the rebound, and THEN find the right one for you.

Answer 8

My mothers famous quote was "everything happens for a reason." I used to get so very angry with her when I'd be in a break up with former husband or boyfriend and I'd be hurting so very bad. I would always say stupid things like "why would God put me through the past 4 years and let me love and then just tear it apart and rip my heart out". I went thru many relationships that I just knew was the "perfect" mate only to have my heart ripped out in the end.

But.....I finally understand what she was talking about. In the summer of 2001 my fiance and I were in the process of splitting up and I was devastated, I did not want to live without him, I could not stop crying for weeks on end. I was 41 at the time and I seriously thought that we would be together forever.

I moved in with my mom because I was not working at the time other that on the ranch. I needed to get a job and start over how ever hard it was for me to do. I cried on a daily basis and thought about him all the time.

About a month or two went by and the days were easier on me, I still cried but not as much. I came home from a week in Colorado and was told that my mom had been diagnosed with Advanced Stage III breast cancer. She was 71 yrs. old. My dad had been in a nursing home due to dementia caused by heart attack and stroke for a little over a year and neither sibling lived close to do anything.

I started understanding her quote at that point. I knew that if I was still with HIM, he would not understand me staying with my mom for days on end or more. He was very self centered. I went to every Chemo treatment with her and was at every doctor appt too. I was her rock and she was mine. I even shaved my head when her hair started falling out so she wouldn't be alone with a bald head.

In late October of that year, my friends (husband & wife) set me up on a blind date. There were 6 couples going all around the metroplex to haunted houses. I was not crazy about being set up on a blind date but thought, what the hell. It had been a long while and I sure could of used a little if you know what I mean!! I physced my self up for a one night stand and we all went out.

Guess what? I've been married to this man for almost 4 years now. He is the most wonderful man in the world. He reminds me of my dad in the ways that he treats me like dad always treated my mom. My mom fell in love with him also which was a blessing I can't begin to explain. She never liked anyone I was involved with since I divorced my first husband. She thought he hung the moon, until Steve can into the picture.

Mom went thru two rounds of chemo and radiation, had a masectomy and still the cancer spread. On April 3, 2002 she went into hospital and did not come out until May 17th. When I took her home in May, it was with Hospice. I took care of her for three weeks until she passed away on June 8, 2002 at the age of 71 3/4 and married to my father for 55 yrs. They were the perfect couple!

I would not take all the money in the world in place of those three weeks. She knew she was dying and she was ok with it. Sure, we cried, we cried alot, but we also had fun. She planned her own funeral and was able to ask the people she wanted to take a part in it to do so. Not many of us are able to do that. Steve and I were by her side day in and day out. Mom and Steve got to be so close and she made him promise that he would take care of me. I felt like I had her final blessing and finally knew that she knew what she was talking about when she'd say "everything happens for a reason". If the ex and I had not split up, I would of never called my friends (had not talked to them in a couple of yrs.) and would of never met my husband, my best friend, my soul mate. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I will never let him go.

We both miss mom with all our hearts and I'm so thankful that they were blessed with the time that they did have together.

Keep your spirits up and belive me when I say, "Everything happens for a reason!!"

Good luck

Answer 9

think about it in long term sort of thing. if you imagine yourself in a couple of years, you know you'll be laughing at how sad you were over this. think of your past relationships and how you got over them! time cures everything, it does. all the best

Answer 10

only one thing.The time is the best medicine.Keep Going with the power of your personality and your heart will be again FULL!

Answer 11

Learn from it. Learn from your mistakes and make sure you don't repeat when you get in a new relationship.