I have a crush on my best guy friend, what should i do?

Question

we met at Y- camp 4 years ago and i didn't see him for a year then when we were going into sixth grade we ended up being in the same 1st 2nd 5th and 6th period classes we talk on the phone for hours at a time and we have been friends for 4 years should i ask him out? i afraid if i do that our friendship will be ruined if i tell him that i lik him what should i do?

but he has a crush on one of my friends and i really want to help him go out with her because every time i call him thats all he talks about is her

Answer 1

When I see questions like these, I can't help but to smile and realate with my entire heart. Even though it's scary, because you are risking a friendship that is valuably too year, it might be even riskier to loose a love that could last a lifetime. My best friend was a guy, and I had feelings for him for years...but when it came down to addmitting them, I was too scared because he was my BEST friend, and who wants to loose someone that important? You might come up with all these reasons not too...that he'll say no and end his friendship with you, or that he'll say yes and you will discover that you prefered just being friends. But most the time, that never happens - the two people are great together, because they were such great friends first. There is already trust and honesty between you two, and since you spend so much time together, you know that there is common things you both enjoy. So go ahead, and be courageous! Tell him over the phone that you have something important to tell him, and that when your finished, you are going to hang up, and its up to him if he still wants to talk to you. I will GUARENTEE that he will call you back, and chances are, tell you that he likes you back. If he doesn't, then he'll still want to be friends...because thats what friendship is all about, being strong dispite change.
If you need proof that you'll be ok, here is my little life story.

I met my best friend the day we were born, he was put in the crib next to mine, our parents discovered we lived minutes apart, and from that moment on, were joined-to-the-hip. Always at each others houses, always on the phone, always together - people use to make fun of us and tell us we were going to get married one day, and we would deny it, saying we were 'just friends'. Both of us were homeschooled, so we were constantly doing schoolwork together at our houses, and going on feild trips sitting side my side in my mothers van. I've had poor health all my life, and when I was 10, I was in the hospital...for like, the 20th time. Whenever I was there, Chuck would be worried sick and insist on seeing me, so my parents would tell nurses he was my brother, because he was too young to visit me otherwise. He told me when we were alone in the room that he was going to take care of me the rest of our lives, because I was his best friend and he never wanted to loose me, he kissed me on the forehead, and whispered that he loved me. We planned our weddings out at 12, I was going to be his best woman, and him, my man of honor. We were going to move into a duplex house, and if our signifigant others didn't like it, then they weren't the ones for us. Stayed 'just friends' for another year, at which point things began to change noticably. I had had a crush on him for what seemed like forever, but was too afraid to tell him, because he was my best friend. So I kept quiet, and watched as other girls flirted with him and my heart broke. But whenever I would ask him if he liked any of them, he would always tell me no. One night, we went to a play together, and we held hands without realizing it...I started to wonder...could he maybe like me back? But I was too afraid to ask him, so I kept waiting and waiting for him to bring it up, and say that he meant in just a friendship way. However, a week later, he called me up as usual at night for our 3 hour long conversation (our parents gave us our own phone lines, just so we would stop tying up theirs), and told me that he had something important to tell me, and when he was finished, he was going to hang up the phone and call me back in an half hour. Immediatly, my heart started to pound...I hoped it was what I thought it was, but feared that it was that he had decided to go out with another girl. He admitted that he had fallen in love with me and hung up. I was overjoyed to the point were I ran around the house laughing hysterically and doing cartwheels, my parents thinking I was nuts. We had our first kiss a couple months later on top of a ferris wheel, had our first make-out not too long after that. We always talked about marriage and having kids after that point. He proposed to me at 14 in a love letter (we have over 400 inbetween both of us in a 4 1/2 year span), gave me a diamond ring at 16, and a few weeks after we turned 18, officially asked my parents for their blessing in marriage. We're getting married next Autumn a few weeks after we turn 19, and everyone supports us completely.

So if you think it won't work it...it can. It really is possible.

JUST READ YOUR DETAILS...
If you think he honestly has feelings for your friend, then as much as it hurts, just sit back and let him talk. Once you feel like you are strong enough, ask him outright if he likes her. If he says yes, then ask him about all the things he sees in her, and likewise. Let him know that you will support him going after her...even though your heart is breaking. Be strong, and maybe he'll see that things won't work out between the two of them...but because you have been there, listening to him and being his friend all along, he see what a wonderful person you are and devolop feelings for you.
Best wishes!

Answer 2

Hi ok you have a cruch on yout best guy friend well don't hind it from him be/c you will nevr know if he thinks the same but at least you guys are friend better to be than emeimys right?Well tell him how you feel and that you wanna go out with him.He he really likes you as a friend and wants more than he should go for it.But if you think telling him you like him or love him might ruin you friendship it won't be/c true friends wouldnt leave you hanging and wouldnt act like a jerk.Don't be afarid he prolly likes you but doesnt feel that he wants to tell you at this moment.Now if he says no to you & walks away look intill he looks back again be/c then there is still a chase to get your way.Also no this might sound kidish but there is a fairy in every corner just waiting to grant one of you wishes.And if one day he does say yes and you feel happy then good be/c you know that some1 u like likes u 2.And you anit wasteing you r time on someone that wont waste it on you!So ask him when the tiem is right.And when it is then remember there's a fairy in every corner!
GOOD LUCK
~*Thanks*~

Answer 3

Before you tell him, give him the chance to feel like a man and have him tell you first. Here's a suggestion:

Invite him to go out and do an acitivity together. Not like a movie or dinner or lunch. Do an ACTIVITY. Go minature-golfing, hiking, biking, walking, go to an arcade, go window-shopping at the mall, walk on main street, go get frozen yogurt together.....

Then set it up nicely like a volley ball player would.

Ask him this way, "Hey friend, I have a girlfriend who has known this guy for a long time and she really likes him, but she's not sure how he feels about her. I'd really like a man's perspective on this. I've heard different things....what would your advice be for my friend?"

If he asks, "Which friend is this?"

Just say, "Let's keep her anonymous, I promised not to tell. What's your take on it?"

If he says anythng like, "Well, he might feel the same way she should just tell her."

Then enjoy some small talk for another 15-30 minutes. Then ask him, "Ok, we've been friends for a long time, but I was wondering what you thought about me?"

Most guys are pretty clueless so he might ask, "HUh? What do you mean?"

Just step up and say, "I mean that if you and I just met today, right now, right here in this frozen yogurt place would you come talk to me?"

His answer will tell you how he feels about you.

Rod Cortez

Answer 4

Thats a tough one. People say that the best boyfriend/girlfriend to have is their best friend. But I don't believe that because what if something was to happen? it could ruin the friendship. But if you do make a move, be sure to tell him that you don't want this to affect your friendship if anything were to happen. Just be sure that your friendship is strong so that your relationship can be even stronger. Good luck!

Answer 5

If the two of you have a mutual friend or acquaintance then let them know and hopefully test the waters for you by saying hey I think maybe SoAndSo (you) might have a thing for you (him) and what do you think of that? Then if it is like when my best friend introduced his cousin to me and I lost my heart... ;-) you get the idea...Good Luck and Best Wishes from a former scarred stiff guy who would not ask.

Answer 6

you need to think about needing him as a really good friend or taking a chance on letting him know how you feel and him not the same. then your friendship will be awkward. is it worth the risk? if it came to be that he had feelings,and you dated and broke up you'll probably lose him forever....
most break-ups don't end up good friends...ya know what i mean??just got to choose what's more important to you...friend or boyfriend...

Answer 7

Your friendship will suffer if he never knows and he starts dating someone else. Tell him how you feel. It's better to know how he feels about it than to wonder.

Answer 8

Go for it. He feels the same way. He's just been waiting for you to make the move.

Answer 9

if yall talk like that im posative he has an intrest in you as well. take a chance u will always regret it if u dont.

Answer 10

go 4 it (ever see when harry met sally? it's the BEST love story!)