What I've learned about my ex is she was baby sitting for her favorite uncle (him 30,her 15) and i guess he hadn't left yet or something, and they were wrestling on the bed?Next thing you know hes inside her she freezes and doesn't move (or protest apperantly)she goes home doesn't say a word to anyone and goes BACK the next night to babysit!!She claims to have started playing with herself when she was 5!She also said she had sex with an older man when she was 15, before or after the"rape" i'm not sure.She only came forth a year later when they were going to expel her from school because her grades were so bad. I know it was from drugs but she said it was on account of her "nightmares about her uncle.I beleive she thought she could confide in the school counselor and it would go no further than that. But the s.c. was legally obligated to tell her parents/police.Not long after i divorce she wanted me to force myself on her. I think she's nuts, opinions?
2006-08-29 18:08:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I dont know if she was raped or not.I was not present.People who have been assaulted act in either two ways..they withdraw from people or become a little promiscious..She has issues and needs some counseling.People don't realize that "date rape" is just as traumatizing as a "forced " rape.No means No in any language.
Don't hastily judge people; you have not walked in their shoes....
2006-08-29 18:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by prettycoolchick38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe nuts isnt the word to use. If she didnt expect what the uncle did, and she was a virgin prior to that, yeah she would have some issues. I been there, did that one too. Believe it or not it is almost harder to deal with coming from someone you trust than it would be from a complete stranger. You arent able to address your feelings because you arent supposed to have ill feelings about this person. At least with a stranger you can hate them for what they did to you. AS far as her wanting you to force yourself on her, maybe she was being sarcastic. I dont know. wasnt there. It may have been her way of saying go ahead everyone else has. She may just now be dealing with all of the things that happened in the past. It took me 15 years to admit to myself that What he did to me was not right. That was after I had been married to him for 11 years. Im not a counselor, so I dont know if shes crazy. We all are to some extent. Right?
2006-08-31 19:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by rwdycwgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife definately has a problem, when young girls have sex with older men, whether it is rape or the girl accepts, it affects them in one way or another. Becausee even if the gal accepts, she is a child n her psych will always be affected if she does not go thru profnal help. I have a cousin who used to accept to sleep with uncles when she was young coz they would give her sweets, now it doesnt take her long to sleep with a man. It is a long term effect that people suffer. Its worse when they are raped, av read books when people get multiple personality disorders becoz of this, so rather than say she is nuts, try helpin her get therapy or counselling.
2006-08-29 18:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by aasweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is telling the truth...she has been traumatized...you couldn't understand that maybe...but that might be the reason she is taking drugs in the first place...if you divorced her because she wanted you to 'force' yourself on her, shame on you...you could have said no and told her you would go to some therapy with her that you loved her and that was not the right thing to do...you married her knowing she had these issues...but don't call the victim nuts...please...
2006-08-29 22:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls lie or have a story about being "raped". The truth is they have sex willingly and then decide after that it wasn't a good idea. Also they wan't to see how much you care by watching your expression and reaction.
2006-08-29 18:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by fitness guru 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know what they say... Crazy in the head, crazy in the bed. Not bad for a booty call, but not something you want to base a relationship on.
I say kick her to the curb and get on with your life.
2006-08-29 18:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sean T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she wanted someone she thinks more highly of to force himself on her than someone who broke her trust to turn it into something good in her mind and it iswhat is best for at the time.role playing is all it is when it comes to that.
2006-08-29 18:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear her story even if its not true she has issues I hope she gets help and that you find what you want
2006-08-29 18:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by zensumman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably did get raped and is "nuts" due to that.
2006-08-31 06:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs help
don't it could be a set-up
2006-08-29 18:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by leslieguelker0517 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋