He has emailed some transexual men on craiglist he said that hes straight though? Im confused I think he is too. HELP!
2006-08-29 17:53:59 · 33 answers · asked by shevizzle1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's nothing you can do about him fantazasing about other guys. Sorry for being blunt, but it's something that only he can determine if he likes or not.
I don't know how you feel about it, how you would feel if he really would search a real encounter with another guy. If it's something that you don't like, then just tell him that he should first find his preference, and if it turns out that it was just a fantasy, and that he is straight, then he can see if you're available and still want him. That's about all you can do.
Don't try to make him straight if he turns out gay. You will loose that battle. He might even marry you if he doesn't want to accept his gay side, but sooner or later he will search out for another guy, and you will be more frustrated and find out that you deceived yourself. Let him decide for himself, and then maybe you can decide what to do.
I really don't know how I would feel like if the women I love thought about being a lesbian. I think that you're having a tought time... There's nothing wrong about being gay, but if he is, let him be and find another guy that will also love you back.
2006-08-29 18:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Do you love him? Are you and he ok with that? If not, why not? If so, will you change your mind and will it bug you down the road? This sounds like a recipe for a pretty unconventional relationship if you go forward. Basically, go forward because you want to and leave your eyes open, or just get out. Don't count on anybody changing.
2006-08-29 18:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by goof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's with you. Just because he is dreaming about men doesn't mean that he is gay. It could mean that he is bi or as you said, confused. The only way to really find out is to talk about it. Talk to him! You might even consider going to couples counseling. This will help him figure himself out and help the two of you straighten out your relationship. Don't give up on him. Try to be supportive. It may mean nothing at all.
Good luck, hun!
2006-08-29 18:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will end up regretting giving too much of your heart to this guy who wants men. He may put it down for a while, but after a while he will want to go back to it, once you cross that line, you will always want to do it again. It is not something you get out of your system, it is something that stays with you.
2006-08-29 18:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by n_of49p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just into some mfm action....if you're into dp then there's no use dumping him! LOL
Ok, ok, so here's my serious answer.....why don't you sit down and talk to him about how it hurts you that he's more interested in the other guys than you. He might be able to explain his fascination in a way that you understand, or might understand where you're coming from and refrain from doing it when you're around.
2006-08-29 17:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he does then you should dump him cause you wont have to worry about a woman stealing him away but a guy and that in a way can be harder to handle in the end...be prepared for what might happen...unless you trust him but if your asking your not trusting him. just let him go
2006-08-29 18:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by ??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is emailing guys on Craigs list.....U know he is gay!!!! He is not curious. He is already in the mix! U need to drop him so he can be with a man. Thats what he wants. He is in denial. Dont be in denial with him.
2006-08-29 18:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, right now, if not yesterday! Girl you know they're too many straight men out there for you!
2006-08-29 17:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by Wanda G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will explore sooner or later...I wouldn't want to be in the middle of that when he does...dump him before he tests the waters.
2006-08-29 17:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the boot before he give you something (if you know what I mean)!!!
Sounds like he's bi-curious.
Disclaimer: I am not saying that transsexual men, bi-sexual men, or gay men have STD's . . .although someone looking for lovers on craigslist probably doesn't have the "cleanest" medical
history.
2006-08-29 18:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by vir9inia@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋