why would a two year old not want to be held so much and always be on the move?

Question

how can i help my little one be more calmer and not always on the go and to be more patient? she wont let anyone hardley hold her she wants to go? how can i get her to set down longer? help me. i feel like she dosent lov eme enough? is it something i have done
she seems to be very independent.

Answer 1

she more independent.. and more out going and that OK!! every kid is different!!
I have two.. and they are as different as night and day!! Besides as a parent.. you job is to love her and take care of her.. Her JOB isn;t to make sure you feel loved enough!!!!

Answer 2

Think about how long she was totally dependent on u in every way. Now she can do little things on her own like walking, running, exploring. She's just getting used to her new independence. It doesn't have anything 2 do w/ her love 4 u & she still needs u in very many ways. Eventually when it's not all so new she will come back 2 u wanting 2 be held & carried.

Answer 3

She's two! That's what two year olds do!

Independence is a good thing. You should encourage it as much as possible. It means she loves you MORE, not less, because she feels safe enough with you to be able to leave you. She knows she can always come back to you.

Unfortunately, I wonder if independence is not something you have a lot of, and that may damage your relationship with your daughter when she is older. You should work on developing your own confidence so that you don't have problems with codependency. Teach your daughter to be strong!

Answer 4

Thats the age they hit when they want to be independent. My three year old never wanted to be held. He always even as a baby wanted to do his own thing. My second one is completely different at least for right now since he is 10 weeks. But loves being held. Actually prefers it! But when they are two they have so much energy and learning so much stuff. Its actually a positive thing he/she is doing. You gotta look at it that way. :)

Answer 5

She's a TODDLER! That means she has seemingly endless energy. That's normal. They are always on the go. Don't try to force affection. She still loves you, but they way she learns is by doing things! As far as patience goes, kids before the age of three are not capable of patience! All they know is what they want...they don't understand that they can't always get what they want. They do learn eventually but you must give her time. Continue to set limits for her but understand that she's still emotionally immature and it's hard for her to control her behavior.

Answer 6

She will always love you. Your daughter has found that her feet gets her places faster then crawling. She is exploring and finding her indepence which is good. Now is the time to really have to child proof the home, those little feet and hands get into everything. Enjoy they sure grow up fast. Also maybe try some puzzles or blocks etc. I found that tupperware and a spoon amused them more than there toys did. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 7

This is a very normal stage that breaks every mother's heart. My son is in this now, he is on the go from morning to night and can barely hold still, he used to be such a lover and cuddlebug I can only cuddle him when he's sleeping now other than a quick hug or kiss during the day.

You can sit down and read to her after her bath, put her in your lap, that will give you some touch time, or you can lie on the bed and read. Of if she will sit down and watch a video, lie down with her and watch it just to have the bonding with her.

Answer 8

Don't take it personally. She just wants to explore her surroundings . . . they are nosy little buggers at this age! Although it may not feel like it, it's a good thing that she's independent already. Look at it as a positive sign of healthy social development. You're probably not ready for it, but she is and you just need to be there for her when she wants you (this goes for the teenage years as well).

Good luck!

Answer 9

Don't be discouraged by any of this, she is a normal active 2 year old. They don't like to sit still. Think of it this way, she is happy, active, has a good character and personality, is full of life, and still LOVES you so very much. She needs you just as much now as she did when she was born. It may not seem like it but she does.
Good luck to you, the cuddlies will come back later, I promise.

Answer 10

all little ones are active to a point but if this seems to be a problem make an appointment with the pediatrician. There should be some times in the day when she will let you snuggle and hold her.