My son is starting a new day care situation. I'm a teacher, so we've been home together all summer, and now that I'm returning to work he will be going to a sitter's home, (a friend of ours), rather than the child care center that he attended last year. Please share any ideas that might make this easier for us both...? He's a pretty easy going kid, but loves his mama. Be nice please! Believe me, I would stay home if I were debt free!!!!
2006-08-29 17:52:12 · 3 answers · asked by Margarita 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Gee, thanks for the guilt trip, Cassandra. Glad to see that you're answering questions to help people. Who do you think I am leaving him with? He is a very independent, happy kid who will be fine. It's not like I am sending him to boarding school. Thanks for judging me and my financial situation. You're welcome for the points.
2006-08-30 14:16:19 · update #1
Were you a day care kid, Cassandra?? Is that was this is all about? Well, I hope that's not what I have to look forward to. Or maybe you're a day care provider that is ROTTEN and YOU are the one who feels guilty? I do not feel guilty. You are trying to make me feel guilty, and guess what? IT'S NOT WORKING!! As I said before, my son is very happy and well adjusted. You did not write to answer my question, your aim was to attack my ethics, morals blah blah blah, and that was not what I asked therefore, **** off!
2006-08-31 15:45:15 · update #2
I hate when people write in saying things when they dont know anything about your personal situation.. with money and everything else! Uhhg! Anyways! It will be easier than a daycare, but you just gotta realize it will be hard for about the first two weeks. I would suggest like the one person said go with him to visit so he gets use to it. When you are ready to drop him off make it a routine for him. The worst thing people did at the daycare ( by the way I worked at one for two years ) was staying in the room. Their child would be sad and the hardest thing is the parents just wanting to stay in the room, you need to just leave. I know its hard as a mom, cause I had to do it too for my son! But it works out the best. I might make it special too when you pick him up by having a treat...whatever it is that is special. But if its a friends of yours I think all this will be a litte easier than a new daycare center! :)
2006-08-29 18:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by JustWondering 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
since this person is a friend of the family it should be easier than a transition into a daycare. start by going to the friends house for a visit. then maybe make plans for an all day outing with the friend. after that spend a half day at the friends house so your child can get used to the surroundings. then when the day comes try spending a little while with him at the friends house and talk about all the neat things he gets to do with the friend that day. maybe an outing to the park or something. after that he should be ok. just a little advice though. if u feel something is bothering him EVER talk to him about it. something could be wrong. ALWAYS listen to him and check out ANY complaints he has. also listen to any concerns about him the caregiver may have. good luck.
2006-08-30 01:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by a very happily married woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you transition a kid to a situation that is bad for his emotional health, intellect, and physical health? Isn't that just crazy talk?
You don't have to be debt free to stay home - you have to have your priorities straight. Giving your son what he needs - needs, not wants - is what you should be doing. The heck with your debt - the damage done to children by separating them from their mommies is soooooo great and far outweighs even getting a lousy credit rating.
They hurt when they're not with us and they think we want them to feel that way! Think about that.
NO one can make you feel guilty. Only when you violate your own ethics, betray your own values, do you feel guilty. Now, did i bring something up to remind you that you are dong that?
Good - because life for a kid in day care is terrible and parents should feel guilty when they do that to a kid. Why shouldn't they? I'm so tired of all the people who want to behave how ever they want, hurt whoever they want, and then get indignant when someone points out something that makes them feel guilty. Again - only you can make you feel guilty. I am trying to help - i'm trying to help your son have a good life, not help you avoid your responsibilities and lie to you about everything you do being okay!
2006-08-30 01:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋