My oldest is 7,next 4, next 3, next 10 monthes. My husband is self employed and I do daycare out of my home. I'm just a little worried because will we make enough money to provide what we need to for the kids?
2006-08-29 17:48:46 · 35 answers · asked by Amber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the kids need a roof over there head,your time.and alot of love.there free things to do every week.go for it.good luck,,
2006-08-29 17:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not have another... make sure you are not confusing providing what they need with providing what they want. My mom raised two kids on her own. We didn't have child support, we didn't have welfare, we just had her paycheck. For a while we didn't have a car, because we lived on a bus route and didn't need one... our neighbor had an extra in case of emergencies. We had a house, eventually we had a car, we had clothes (I got name brand clothes from goodwill, you'd be surprised what people throw out). We had food. For fun in the summer we went to the beach, because you could pack a cooler full of food and spend the whole day and it was cheap. In the winter we went sledding or built snowmen. Every summer my friends family stayed at our house, since my mom worked, she fed them and let her mom use the car to take us places so my mom didn't have to pay daycare all summer. But she paid daycare the rest of the year. And, remember, we only had one income, no help. We took an annual trip to an amusement park and we each got to bring a friend, mom paid for it, because she could afford to save up for it every year by not spoiling us. And friends spent every weekend at our house. And the reason we could afford this was because we only had what we needed. We didn't have computers, we had one tv, we had one stereo for the whole house, we didn't have cable or a vcr until I was 10. We had one phone line, we had nothing we didn't need. My mom didn't pay for our college, that is a priviledge, not a right. But we still went. We paid for it ourselves... as will my kids. I've seen too many of my friends throw away their college education because they were'nt losing any money over it.
Remember, name brand isn't important, and you can get $10 hair cuts. People on here are stupid.
The benefit of this is that we grew up knowing the value of a dollar.
So, sure, if you have enough love for another kid, have one.
2006-08-29 18:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have all boys or girls, then maybe try to have another child. I think four is enough. If you are already worried about the expense of having another one and not even pregnant. For sure you should stop and let your body recover from having four kids. If I was you I would have at least 2 nights out a month with your husband and no kids.
2006-08-29 18:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by SS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something missing from life that you're trying to fill with kids? Are you perhaps craving to be needed by somebody? I'm a huge fan of kids and am trying to concieve myself. I'm very jealous of you! If you look at the underlying feelings of why you want another child and they are the right reasons than go ahead and have another! No matter how tight money gets, you will always find a way. As long as there is love in your childs ife, a plasma TV won't matter, if you get what I'm saying! Good luck! xx
2006-08-29 17:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 28 with 4 kids and yes I too am debating having more. I just love being a mother and yes it is hard, but its worth it. As far as financially...love, guidance, and nurturing is free. You still have to pay rent/mortgage regardless. Your food bill and toiletries, etc... will go up some. But budgeting will help that. Look at the family in Arkaknsas with 16 kids. Their income comes from buying and resaling real estate...she stays at home and homeschools, teaches music, etc...They seem like a great family. They just budget accordingly. As far as college goes, at the rate that their rates keep going up anyway, even people with one kid and upperclass income may have issues affording college. Their are grants and financial aid. I think it is good for someone to put themselves through school anyway...may be harder but it teaches values. If this is something you truly want, go for it, because the urge and need will never go away.
2006-08-30 09:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by araine77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can always have as many as u like but depending on many things.
If you can provide happiness for the child, and can provide the material basics at least, it can work. there are many in South Asia where they have not had much to eat but have been happy because they felt the love the parents showered on them. and they have also become most determined to make it to the top as they have known hardships. But it can make or break their character.
it is after all important to know both sides of the issue before deciding.
But it can work if u believe in it. But dont hav more just because u want, consult ur husband and if possible, ur children. come to an agreement maybe
Hope it works out for u guys
2006-08-29 18:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can manage a daycare, you can manage 5 kids. Just be careful that you don't allow parenthood to take over your sense of self. Spread the next one out a little more, so you'll have time to potty train the last one. Besides, you don't want your younger ones to be pushed aside for the newest before they can understand what's happened to your previously intimate relationship with them.
2006-08-29 17:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you must discuss with your husband. But don't listen to these nitwits who think you are crazy for wanting another child. If you have another one, you will be able to make it through financially. Just a little advice here, start saving the clothes from the others to re-use. I'm sure you are already.
2006-08-29 18:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 21 with 1 baby and I also want to have 5. If you want another baby then go for it but I think the real question is can you afford it? If you cant then dont because Im sure you want all your children to have everything they need. Talk to your husband about it.
2006-08-29 17:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by TAWNIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not have any more 4 is a lot your husband may leave you or get hurt then were will the money come from it takes a lot of money for 4 kids now days
2006-08-29 18:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'd get the old man clipped! Can you afford braces, $40 haircuts, and College for your brats? You both should be ashamed. You are nothing but a low-life breeder (kinda like a rat).I pity your children, What kind of life are they going to have? You must be from the South ...
2006-08-29 18:02:52 · answer #11 · answered by Mikey W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋