Okay, so I'm in college and I like to party and have fun. This includes occasional oral sex but I am wondering do any other girls worry that the guy will stop respecting her once she goes down on him. Especially while on their knees, I mean this makes me feel like a slave and not in a kinky way..in a way that makes me feel worthless. Guys do you really enjoy seeing the woman you love kneeling like that? Do you respect her any less or think of her differently?
2006-08-29 17:46:51 · 40 answers · asked by mrs michelle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay prefereably don't accuse me of being a wh0re that is so rude I drink maybe once a month because I try to keep up my 4.0 for med school. I don't "suck up" every guy I see okay? I've done it to 2 guys in my 20 years so don't make me out to be a sl#t.
2006-08-29 18:02:30 · update #1
Seeing the girl I love in that kind of position is a little different than looking at some random girl who will do that to just anyone for "fun."
So no, it wouldnt change a thing if it were my girlfriend.
However, it sounds like youre that second girl I mentioned. If thats the case there are probably ALOT of people who dont have any kind of respect for you. True, you wont ever have a hard time getting with certain guys but those guys might have even less respect for you. One type of guy sees you as a sIut and the other sees you as an object...a piece of meat.
2006-08-29 17:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by BoredomStrikes 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
OK this is a good question because it brought up a debate that my sister and I had a few months ago.
She's from another generation (17 year gap!)
She's 19, I'm 36.
When I was growing up, it was considered the most demeaning thing you could do.
Wayyy worst then having sex in the "naughty" things to do category.
Now my sister says that it is quite the opposite now,
That oral sex is considered socially acceptable.
I'm not talking about long relationships and marriage, this is causal bf/gf relationships.
It's strange how one generation can go so far in the opposite direction, then the other.
I guess my parents said the same about me and their parents.
HECK wayyyyyyyyyyyyy back.. showing your ankle was scandalous! We've come a long way from that. lol
Personally I can't get past the casual oral sex thing.
When I was younger, I remember my generation feeling the same, excluding their long term girlfriends and wives.
*BUT* your business is your business, no one can take your dignity or pride away from you unless you let them.
Some men do look down on woman that do oral sex and some don't think any less of you. All enjoy it. lol
It depends how they were brought up, their religion, what is considered normal for them.
If it doesn't feel right for you then that should be good enough.
To hear some people talk, it's like they believe that they are safe from diseases because they are not having actual intercourse....
This, of course, is not true and that STD (diseases-Nasty Critters! :p)
DO catch through oral sex, not just intercourse.
Do what you feel is right. If it feels wrong DON"T do it!
Listen to your instincts.
Who cares what the guy thinks.
He will respect your decision or he can take off.
peace
2006-08-29 18:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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Is preforming oral sex demeaning? (esp while kneeling)?
Okay, so I'm in college and I like to party and have fun. This includes occasional oral sex but I am wondering do any other girls worry that the guy will stop respecting her once she goes down on him. Especially while on their knees, I mean this makes me feel like a slave and not in a kinky...
2015-08-19 16:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Christia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 05:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Partying with occasional oral sex is not really like asking about the woman the guys love.
Casual sex just for the fun of it can be demeaning, but I personally think BJ is almost a more personal thing than regular sex. If it makes you feel worthless, maybe you should quit doing it.
2006-08-29 17:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by Chloe 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Its not demeaning at all just give orals in different positions preferable in the "reciprical" postion so that way both of u are making each other feel respected instead as a worthless sex object.
2006-08-29 19:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by tayemoore1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oral sex is not demeaning in any way. It's actually nice to have a girl giving you oral. I respect a girl the same way whether or not she gives me oral sex kneeling or 69'ed.
Its only demeaning if the girl gives it to a guy whos not in a relationship with her.
2006-08-29 17:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by zebo007 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Actually, i've asked a few of my friends and my boyfriend as well what they thought about girls performing oral sex and they all said that a girl giving a guy oral pleasure is the greatest thing that they could ever do for them which i thought was sweet... unless its like one of those guys that are too immature and stupid
2006-08-29 17:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by norma 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Is it demeaning for a man to perform oral sex on a woman?
I feel less attracted to women who are sexually shy, yes. I feel less in harmony with them because I am not sexually shy (well, on the chase I'm shy but not in bed). So I would respect a woman more for going down on me, or letting me go down on her.
2006-08-29 17:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
In so many ways,you've answered your own question! (example) you "occasionally" have oral sex with anybody,so that makes it demeaning,and worthless. And your asking if you'll still be respected in the morning? Seems to me,that going to College has only taught you how to sexually satisfy the "Frat Boys",and hoping you'll still be proud enough to hold your head up in your "Sexual Behavior" class.
2006-08-29 17:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋